Friday, February 26th, is Boobday! (And a reminder as to why I do this.)

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A post was brought to my attention yesterday written by a woman I don’t know who was critical of women exposing their bodies.  The gist was that we are misguided; we are not free as we believe, but slaves to the broader rule of misogyny, brainwashed by men into thinking we’re powerful because we flash our bits.  And men are drooling dopes for encouraging us.  [Ed. note: The post was read to me, I haven’t read it myself.  Also, too lazy to look up the link, but I think it’s irrelevant for this discussion anyway.]

Frankly, I can’t believe we’re still having this argument.  It reminds me of the whole porn debate, that women who participate in it are somehow undermining the good fight for equality and respect.  Well, not exactly.  Many women who are in porn go in with their eyes open and with a love for sex and performance.  How is that a bad thing?  Of course it certainly depends on the woman, the type of porn, etc., but they’re not all barely legal girls with daddy issues and a drug problem and even if they were, they’re entitled to do as they please and not be judged for it or blamed for the downfall of feminism.

Likewise, the images I share come from confidence and joy, not desperation or a need to be loved.  They’re controlled and dictated solely by me.  No man tells me what to do here.  In fact, I share in large part for other women, to show an alternative body shape as beautiful and sensual.   Today’s image in particular I chose because of the stretch marks you can see that appeared when I was breastfeeding my baby.

I share my body because I want to and because I can.  It’s that simple.  I don’t understand what the big deal is to people and why they must generalize about the motivations of those who do.  So you don’t want to??  Ok.  Cool.  So don’t, but don’t tell me why I do it.  Tell us why you don’t in a way that isn’t projecting onto us and go about your day.

You’re self-conscious, it doesn’t feel right to you, it’s embarrassing because omg, you’re naked!, your man would get jealous, you’d feel guilty, your mama told you never to do it, whatever.

I like it, it feels right to me, and I can, so I do.

I don’t need to justify the deeper drives that coalesce in this one body to make me into the exhibitionist that I am, that make me promiscuous or bold or strong.  I am what I am and I love this woman just the way she is.

I think I speak for many here when I say that owning my body and its sexuality is by far more empowering to me than hiding it.  I eschew traditional forms of many things — dating, sex, relationships — so why would I embrace a traditional belief about nudity?  Me doing this makes far more sense than not and I’d like to think I am able to show the world that just because a woman bares her body doesn’t mean that’s all there is to her.  And, luckily for me, I’ve written hundreds of thousands of words to back that up and they’re all available in this handy dandy blog.

My body and its availability to the public is an extension of my art.  I could write the rest of my life and never post another pic and be perfectly content, but it wouldn’t feel complete.  This body is part of my larger work and denying that would be first dishonest and second pointless.  And why?  To agree with some of my sisters that my bare breasts disempower me?  No thanks.

Still scratching your head about why it is I do this?  You can also read this or you can happily disagree with me and think I’m a slave to men’s knuckle-dragging desires.  Either way, I’m not gonna worry about it.  I’m just gonna do me and that includes some boobs, a little ass, and a whole lotta words.

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Ok, now that that’s out of the way, this week we have lots of in-house ladies sharing their bodies and I can’t tell you why they all do it because I’d never presume to know, but each woman is asked to tell me why she’s chosen her image to share and I think their words are the most important part of Boobday.  Sometimes they’re deeper reasons such as learning to love her body and sometimes it’s simply a snapshot in her day, a moment that has flickered across her mind.  I’ll let you scroll down and see for yourself.

xx

Hy

Full Boobday Guidelines here.

One of two ways to participate: 1) either be one of the first 3-4 people to submit a pic OR (OR, not AND) 2) submit a link below to your own blog post for Boobday.  And don’t forget to comment on everyone’s posts!  This is all about spreading the love!

My tits:

This cardigan is going to figure prominently in my life, I can tell already.
This cardigan is going to figure prominently in my life, I can tell already.

NOT my tits:

She was Rebecca for a short time on IG, now she's Olivia (@Oliviatarose).
She was Rebecca for a short time on IG, now she’s Olivia (@Oliviatarose).

This pic is me after a workout. Tired boobs!

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I'm beginning to really look forward to what Camille (and Holden) come up with.  Their creativity is inspiring.
I’m beginning to really look forward to what Camille (and Holden) come up with. Their creativity is inspiring.  Click the image.

We have had warm temperatures in our part of the world over the past couple of weeks, and so I am itching for a road trip!

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This is Lyn's debut here.  Something about seeing her jeans that makes it 10x sexier.
This is Lyn’s debut here. Something about seeing her jeans that makes it 10x sexier.

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I love the lace on Selina's tank, the dramatic swoop down below her breast.
I love the lace on Selina’s tank, the dramatic swoop down below her breast.

I picked this picture because , I love the mystery of my breast when they’re covered , and the boldness when they’re busting out :)

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Kim's summer is leaving its mark on her.
Kim’s summer is leaving its mark on her.

SA is SUPER hot at the moment, sometimes your “birthday suit” is the only thing you can wear….. :-)

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Imagine pressing yourself against Sandy like this.  I dare you.
Imagine pressing yourself against Sandy like this. I dare you.

4:30 am getting ready for the day soapy boobs

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Anonymous Aussie teases.
Anonymous Aussie teases.

Just chilling out in front of the tele after a shower in my fave feminine cotton nightie, my hand can’t resist the soft, silky skin within! So I thought I’d snap off a Boobday selfie to share. ;)

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Q (another IG friend) blew me away when I opened this earlier in the week.  If that were a bra, I'd buy it.  Follow her here @shes_got_quirks.
Q (another IG friend) blew me away when I opened this earlier in the week. If that were a bra, I’d buy it.  Follow her here @shes_got_quirks.

Shibari (ropework) is a form of mindfulness meditation for me. It’s more about the journey than the resulting harness; however, I’m more than happy to share the outcome for a good cause!

Be sure to visit the other amazing people sharing this week!

A 40-something single mother who writes honestly about sex, body image, D/s, relationships, her nervous tics, and how much she loves to fucking fuck. She also likes to show you her tits.

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31 thoughts on “Friday, February 26th, is Boobday! (And a reminder as to why I do this.)
  1. Your explanation. Two thumbs up! It’s funny how I have to have deep psychological issues and am causing the downfall of feminism because I like showing my body. Really, I just like showing my body. End of story.

    Lovely photos, ladies
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  2. First off, I think all the ladies are gorgeous, Lyn, welcome, the jeans and that smile :D and Q I love the ropework. I really must learn to do that to myself :)
    I have a little rant of my own :)
    I get so fed up of reading things by other women about why I shouldn’t do this. I have to say that it’s a load of crap. My blog has to be the single most empowering thing I’ve ever done. I never thought I would be happy taking and sharing naked or semi-naked photos of my self but the comments I get from people, male and female from all over the world have been nothing but positive. I guess I’m lucky that I’ve yet to receive a nasty message.
    My self confidence and body image have soared and I’m so grateful to you Hy, and others who host these memes that give me the opportunity to be able to share.
    Like you, my blog is about me, not just my body and I too see it as an extension of my art. My photography, my words and my choice to share what I want, not what someone else tells me I can share or what I should be doing. I lived like that for so many years and I was miserable. Now I’m happy and I love what I do. So they can all feck off, if they don’t want to that’s fine but don’t tell me what to do.
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  3. Hy,

    I wrote a post on this exact topic yesterday. It was my POV and why I do what I do. Explains my own actions and speculations on why maybe some others do as well. My post was in no way meant to be judgmental but more revealing as to the the liberating feelings and freedoms that come from sharing that which society believes should be hidden or taboo. I see it as sexual exploration and a sense of healing can be had for those that are body conscious or have body image issues (myself included) but not to imply that the only reason people do it is because they are self conscious. Most probably are not. I guess the overall thought I have on this topic is just allow people the grace of acceptance and understanding and the freedom of their own choices. If you’re interested here is a link to my post. https://secretsliesandbarerawtruths.wordpress.com/2016/02/25/erotica-selfies-and-sexting/

    1. Hi Amy! Just to clear up any possible misunderstanding, yours is not the post I was told about, but I’ll definitely go and check it out. And I agree with you 100% that we should all allow people to do themselves however they see fit. It sure would make the world a nicer place if we did!

  4. I don’t know why this didn’t show up in my reader…
    Amen to what you wrote.
    Just because I’m not a regular contributor any more (I guess I don’t feel the need any more, and I still won’t share on my blog, so…) doesn’t mean that I don’t support entirely the right of all women to do what the fuck they want with their body! Seriously?
    What I wrote back then is still true today. To me, Boobday was a way to empower myself, to start to love myself, and learn to finally like my body too. I still struggle with that from time to time, but nowhere near as bad as when I was participating. I guess now I have less need because I get positive feedback regularly too :-)

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  5. First of all, the ladies who post here all deserve a huge round of applause for their beauty, creativity and ballsiness!

    Secondly, I agree with every word of your intro. There is an awful New Puritanism on the rise, which has infected an awful lot of people who should know better, and is mainly centred in the Anglo-Saxon world in reaction to events in the Muslim world and in Russia. We all have to do what we can to fight this attempt to push back what we fought so hard to achieve over the last century. Well said x
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    1. Good points, and as I said above to Molly’s comment, the freedom to do this doesn’t go unnoticed by me. I understand that it is a hard won opportunity, even right to do as I choose.

  6. Gorgeous line up as always. As far as the rant from the woman…I think it all boils down to her own insecurities. Her problem….not ours. She needs to go deal with that.

    1. Well, I’m not going to speculate on her reasons for believing that; she’s certainly entitled to her view and I respect her decision. What I struggle with is the insinuated wrongness of my own behaviors based on those beliefs.

  7. As you so rightly said in your post, I do this because I can and that is not something that we should take lightly or for granted. There are many women living in countries who do not have the freedom to express themselves in any way they wish, let alone the freedom to enjoy their bodies. They would be at great danger if they did what you and I do and that and that is a horrific thought.

    I post the images I do for a huge amount of reasons but mainly because I love doing so. I love the whole process involved in making my photographs and the sharing them online is only a part of that. It is my body, for all its faults, and believe me there are many, it is still MY body and it brings me a huge amount of pleasure and part of that comes from expressing myself by photographing it.

    Mollyxxx
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    1. I meant to address that freedom, but forgot to – the idea that some women would literally be murdered for doing what we’re doing. I don’t take that lightly. It’s an incredible freedom to have. xx Hy

  8. Everyone looks gorgeous and thanks for the welcome!
    Brilliant explanation of why it is you do what you do- and you should never have to change to accomodate what other people think.
    I forgot to write why I chose my pic…probably because I was too busy being angry that IG had deleted my account again..there are a lot of people who are uncomfortable with the naked body and I understand that because it took me a long time to be comfortable in and with mine. I do what I do because it is an outlet for me and because it took me years to accept my body.
    I chose my pic because I’m happy with the way I look now and I think it’s reflected in the picture
    Lyn

    1. Thanks for including why you chose that photo this week. I think it’s equally as important for women who look like you (stunning) to share your own struggles so that everyone may know we all have our own inner battles to fight. That just because someone is slimmer or trimmer doesn’t necessarily mean they have it all figured out (or bigger busted or whatever).

      I’m so honored that you’ve chosen to participate this week and I hope we get to see more in the future! xx Hy

  9. These Boob pics were varied an each different in their own lovely way.
    Your intro was touching and thought provoking and as far as I can see right on point.
    Your body is your’s and if you want to show some of it off, that’s ok, just as it is if you didn’t.
    Once again, wonderful pics, your contributors are to be commended

  10. Thanks gorgeous Hy, another stunning Boobday, thanks ladies. & yes Hy, that cardy is a standout, it looks so soft & cosy too. Dawn, I couldn’t help but identify with your comments, very well said. & more power to all of us that choose to share our bodies & the sense of fulfillment & empowerment it gives us.

    1. Sometimes I wonder if power isn’t subjective, I mean, I have to allow myself to be over-powered to some degree, so wouldn’t it follow that to be empowered that’s also a decision I make? I can’t take away anyone’s power just like they can’t give it to me. So glad you participated this week, my beautiful friend! xx Hy

      1. :) Makes sense to me Hy. Even when we allow ourselves to be overpowered, it’s still our decision. So yeah, it’s subjective & what’s important to each individual. Keep up the good work my sexy friend.

  11. Wonderful words . . . and I agree with every line !!!
    And with all of the comments . . . and commenters . . . that follow!!!
    And, of course, as always you have a wonderful collection of contributors as well . . .
    I’m so regretting that I was away these past few days and unable to log-in until this morning. So wish I’d been able to contribute in both word and deed . . . but then everyone here has said, and posted, so perfectly and eloquently.
    Bravo to all !!!
    Xxx – K
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  12. What strengthens patriarchy is women telling other women what they should and shouldn’t do with their bodies. You keep expressing yourself any way you feel like, Hy. Your body, your space, your rules.

    Besides, opinions are like assholes. Everybody’s got one. ;-)

  13. I look forward to Boobday, because the beauty of a woman’s bosom is always creatively highlighted by shading, lighting, clothing and setting. Hy, I have followed Boobday since you started it and have seen the grace and loveliness displayed each week. Your thoughts on the empowerment are true to form. So many of the posts have highlighted the strength that each of the participants feels. As a man, I see this as beauty, not porn or exhibitionism. Your meme has spread to the far corners of the world bringing some of the best photography for us to enjoy.

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