I’m running a hair late to work, but I’m otherwise organized. I look good, feel good, got my baby with me this week. I’m working out, not wasting time on silly men – just spending time exploring my needs and wants in relation to men. I’m feeling good.
I’m sure it’s no coincidence that after two years and nine months The Neighbor finally moved away and left my orbit. I feel weightless, joyous, filled with hope.
I can hardly believe it.
So, in honor of all of this, I’m throwing it back old school and posting a random pic like I used to (before IG).
Almost six years ago he came into my life and today, finally, he is gone.
I had an inkling that he had moved out a little earlier than the beginning of October like he’d told me this summer, but I wasn’t sure, so I took a little detour on my morning walk with the dog and found myself outside the back of his building beneath his balcony.
Gone were his bike and black and white patio furniture. Could he really have moved out??
I don’t know what compelled me to walk up three flights of stairs, but I did.
The dog panted beside me and my breasts swung loose beneath my pajama top. My hair was in disarray, no makeup, glasses on. This was me at my absolute rawest climbing to confront the source of so much pain.
I don’t know what compelled me to turn the handle on his door, but I did.
Perhaps it was the many little carpet threads strewn about the hallway foyer, proof of new carpet installed somewhere on the floor. Perhaps I just needed to see for myself.
And when the handled turned with no resistance and the door swung open I walked right in. The door shut with a thud and my heart matched.
My chest felt tight, my breath shallow. He was gone.
New carpet was indeed being installed, evidence that it had been several days since his departure. My breath continued to evade me as tears welled in my eyes. I looked for remnants of him, any hint that he had been there. I opened kitchen drawers, the refrigerator. I remembered where we’d hung every picture and where I’d placed every piece of furniture and plate.
The refrigerator door was still on backwards and I laughed to think that he was just that lazy he couldn’t be bothered to call maintenance to switch the hinges.
As I walked into his bedroom I could almost smell the flavor of incense he preferred, sweet and foreign, see his cherry wood sleigh bed. But it was just an empty room with bare walls and a new carpet smell.
In the bathroom the tears came. This is where I took some of my favorite photos of him. The one of him in the bathtub and the one that would later become his profile picture for many sex sites across the internet the summer after we broke up, the one of him standing behind his clear shower curtain, the striations on his naked body like horizontal pinstripes on candy.
I had bought little wooden letters for him – a T and an N – as a token of my love and of our little secret. They had been on his counter. I’m sure they had long since been thrown away, but I remembered them nonetheless.
There was nothing left behind, not even a scrap in a single drawer or shelf. He wasn’t heree and so I left.
At the top of the stairs that once was the place of frolic and love I looked out and down below and remembered the last time I had been on those steps and felt another wave of emotion.
I had returned to retrieve the note on the bag of his things I’d put on his doorstep and left feeling triumphant. Oh, how silly I was then. But it didn’t feel right to leave just yet so I walked back in and stood in his kitchen at the island, a kitchen design nearly identical to my own, and looked out the windows still as a mouse, heavy as a mountain.
The dog laid down and waited as I put my head down on the island and cried.
I cried because I could and I cried because it was finally over. I no longer had to brace myself when I saw him come and go or worry about running into him at the mailbox. I cried because I hadn’t realized how much this would mean to me, this ending, this finality.
The last time I was there was the Wednesday morning he’d pulled me into his warm, sleepy arms, looked me straight in the eyes and told me he “Didn’t want to do it,” anymore. “It” being us.
The last time I was in that room I had cried a river and raged and begged and fought and knelt down before him and admitted defeat.
The last time I was in that space he had ripped my heart out and shredded it with his bare hands and ever thoughtful words.
My heart was destroyed in that apartment on the third floor and I was transformed. How could I possibly not come back and honor what had happened to me here?
I breathed in the air that was once his space, deeply and with much personal drama and quietly left. Now this is the last time I will have ever been here. With my dog, in my pajamas, fit only for my own company. Real. Healing. Possibly better than before.
I don’t remember walking down the stairs, just that I thought, “Hey, he doesn’t have a mailbox there anymore,” as I walked toward the little house that represented each residence. And then the other older black, fancy car just like his caught my eye and I thought. “Well, fuck.”
I suppose soon enough I will stop noticing that kind of car altogether.
And the Robs, Dans, Mikes, Johns, Bobs, Davids, Kevins, and Troys.
Man after man, dick after dick, miss after miss.
Last summer it was a project of mine to cull my contacts and I found I had multiple pages of the same man’s name, a list in black and white of my apathy, hunger, and disdain.
With the exception of 3, I have no memory of those men.
There have been 6 “Chrises” in my life recently, each terribly memorable and forgettable simultaneously. The Chris who ghosted on me after we fucked under a bridge and all night in my bed. The Chris who apologized at 8:30 at night on a day we’d planned to go out that he wasn’t up to it. The other Chris who admitted he was not attracted to me despite behavior that sent mixed signals. The Chris who… I can’t remember who he is or was. Another Chris I can’t remember. And then a Chris from that list, one I actually do remember, just texted me last night.
I’m doing this wrong if I can’t remember men.
Not only that, but I can’t remember the dicks I have in my phone. Fleshy and hard, in bathroom mirrors and surrounded by crumpled pants or sheets. I find myself scrutinizing one on occasion trying to place it. Whose is this?? What time of year was it sent? What was going on in my life then? WHO IS THIS???
Inevitably, the questions go unanswered and I click my phone off.
I recently went out with an old lover who texted me 2 years after our last date. The last time we were together I struggled with my lack of interest in our sex despite our easy rapport while clothed. I called myself a shitty lay and wracked it up to my own poor performance. Our second date shattered that theory: he’s not that good in bed.
And he’s delusional about his penis size.
“I love being the skinny white guy with a huge dick,” he said while we sipped whiskey cocktails earlier in the night. I thought maybe I’d remembered him wrong, but no, he has about an average length penis that is quite slender. It felt like a sneeze that never swept through me.
Of course I came — lots — but that’s just lucky body composition on my part, not his skill or passion.
At one point I was on all fours, ass high in his dimly lit room, with his mouth on my little starfish and nothing else. Not his hand or arm. It felt odd, like I was floating in space with a warm, wet alien attached to me between my ass cheeks.
“Where are your hands??” I asked almost irritated that I was even having to ask.
“One is on my dick,” he answered.
“Where’s your other?? Put it on me, please!”
I felt a soft palm press against my hip. I grit my teeth until he’d had his fill.
There are so many Chrises in my past I stopped chronicling them here. I’ve stopped a lot of things here since The Neighbor left me. I lost my muse, my joy in sex and discovery, nearly my interest in writing. I have been beaten to a pulp in the dating arena in round after round and have felt overly responsible about protecting my dates from their own miserable, sad, ridiculous, or embarrassing behavior, but I don’t want to do that anymore.
From now on I’m going to write about all the Chrises and their delusions of grandeur.
And all the Robs, Dans, Mikes, Johns, Bobs, Davids, Kevins, and Troys. Not out of spite or revenge or to make them look bad, but because their stories are mine, too, and I’m tired of protecting them when there is a story for me to tell.
There’s much more going on here than I’ve let on. So much more.
I admit my stomach dropped when I saw his name in my inbox. I didn’t expect to hear from him that quickly, let alone at all.
I had held no punches, pulled back the curtain to reveal my years of suffering. Before I’d hit Send, my finger had wavered over the button, unsure. I knew it would hurt him and that wasn’t what I wanted, but I pressed it because of my pain. I had to at least attempt to stop the flow.
His response was short, curt almost.
He had misinterpreted my very first shot across the bow as an olive branch as I had feared. I thought I’d been very clear of my confusion in writing, but perhaps his hopes overshadowed my words.
He asserted his memory of our history was “different” from mine and said he didn’t want to argue over it.
He will be moving out the beginning of October, “so there won’t be further cause for you to feel anxiety about possibly running into me after that.”
He then suggested that it was best we didn’t communicate anymore and he would no longer be responding to my emails (as if I were wanting a dialogue).
I had sat down to read, but as I finished I realized I’d held my breath and my heart was racing. I let it out and with it the wall began to crumble. A tear sprang to my eye, but quickly dried. I was pleased with the response — he seemed shaken, which means I got through to him — but also sad. He didn’t address one thing other than to say he has a different memory “of our history,” whatever that means.
And I knew I’d hurt him.
I felt vindicated, but equally ashamed. Proud and embarrassed. All this time, though, he has believed me to have happily moved on, free of guilt or responsibility.
Then the anger came in large, indignant swells.
What do you mean by you “have a different take on our own history”?? Did you not come over to my house one day and say you wanted a break? Did we not then not discuss a single thing? Did you not then dump me? Had you not denied anything being wrong for you for the entire preceding year whenever I’d asked??
As I drove home I fact-checked my own memory. No, all those things had happened. I didn’t know what he was remembering differently from me.
Perhaps it was my claim that him dating that woman from the gym overlapped with his insistence he was happily single and wanted to remain that way. No, I fact-checked that the moment I’d seen the images. They began around August/September, clearly at odds with his false claims.
Maybe it was that I knew he’d lied about other things which I didn’t list? He doesn’t know to which I’m referring so he can’t possibly refute my belief there.
I had attached the very first and last screenshots of his AFF visits. He didn’t mention that either, but perhaps he believes AFF just randomly listed him in my visitors.
The only thing he addressed was my anxiety, which to be honest I’m thankful for. I now have something to look forward to in regards to him for the first time in 2 1/2 years.
He could have said so many other things, really grown up things.
Things like, “Jesus Christ, Hy, I am so sorry that I hurt you like that. You’re right, I should have told you so much sooner, I just couldn’t muster the courage and I didn’t want to hurt you; I hoped my feelings would change, etc,” or “I’m sorry for looking at your AFF account. It’s been hard not being your friend and so I periodically check in on you in hopes you’d know I was thinking about you. I won’t do it anymore,” or “You’re right, I did lie to you about wanting to date other women because I was afraid I’d lose you. I really fucked that up,” or even, “I can see how it looked like it over-lapped, but it was just really close timing and I even surprised myself by dating her when I thought I wasn’t into dating.”
But he didn’t.
He doubled down and shut down.
My version of events likely fly in the face of the story he’s told himself so he can sleep at night. It’s his very human right to remember things differently, but now it’s my turn to sleep.
I wrote the letter for me, not expecting anything in return, but what he did give me has lightened my heart immensely. He knows how I feel – possibly for the first time ever – and that’s all I needed. I just needed him to know.
I sent the letter – a revision of the first – that neatly explained the things he knew nothing about.
His abandonment of me has really fucked me up.
I know he’s a liar.
His proximity by virtue of remaining in our complex causes me great anxiety.
I don’t appreciate him openly viewing my AFF profile.
I kept it as short as possible – and narrowly focused – so that my message would be received. I wanted him to know that his choices hurt another human being, and hopefully not irrevocably. I wanted him to know that I was still in pain due to all of the aforementioned things and, most importantly, I wanted him to know that I was making a choice to no longer hide or hold onto them. I needed him to know.
I’ve set them down and I’ve backed away. What happens next is entirely up to the Universe.
The world seems to be crumbling around us and I can’t be bothered to focus on my anger today.
Instead I’m focused on surviving, trying to pay rent, being healthy, my baby, just living.
But I’m ashamed to admit that a part of the reason I didn’t immediately hit send once I’d proofread it three times and signed my name is because I’m afraid of hurting him. Even now, two-and-a-half years later, I’m afraid of saying something that will hurt him. And I’m afraid he’ll say, “No, Hy, you were the asshole.” But I’ll have to handle it, I want to handle it, I need to handle it.
He’s probably thinking that this is the beginning of us being friends and it’s that misinformed expectation that causes me pause. I held no punches and described what the last couple of years have been like for me, which have not been pretty. God, why am I so afraid of hurting him?? All I’m doing is sharing what my life has been like in the wake of our relationship, his lies.
I’m afraid of being wrong. That’s all it is. I’m afraid he’ll say, “None of that is true and none of your feelings matter,” just like I was always told as a child. I have zero experience telling someone they’ve hurt me and getting a sincere and heartfelt apology back and this is even scarier because I don’t have a relationship with this man anymore; I don’t expect an apology, but I suppose I do expect a retaliation. And I’m ok with that.
I am not expecting him to help me move on or bring closure.
I’m doing that, that’s my job. The creation of this letter is purely for me to send it, not for me to receive something back. I am responsible for me, he’s not.
It would be a dream come true, though, if he came at me on his knees and confirmed all my suspicions of lies and deceit. It’d be poetic because there’s something sick about having a gut feeling things are off, but being told you’re crazy and not to worry only to discover later you were absolutely right when your boyfriend of 3 years walks out on you one day. A lot like that paper cut on your tongue as you suck a lemon.
It’s late and I have an early start tomorrow. I wonder how the letter will read in the light of a Monday morning.
I’d had a glass or two of white wine, there was a late Spring chill in the air, Sinatra was playing on the record player. Every sock drawer had been organized, every bill paid, all the laundry folded. There were no hanging chads in my life, so to speak and it was as if suddenly I had nothing else to do but email him.
So I did.
As my fingers slid across the keys it was an out-of-body experience. Was I really doing this? It’d been a year and a half since we’d seen each other, more than two since he dumped me. Why was I doing this??
Even as I wrote I knew it was an awkward stream of consciousness. “I’m genuinely curious to know if you’re great or struggling. After two long years apart I continue to work hard to trust and be open. I basically trust no one; it’s almost a joke. So, I guess I’m admitting to you that I’m not great.” But I didn’t care and hit Send anyway.
The next morning I did a game recap with surprised friends. Ann and Meredith were supportive, but both wanted to know what my hopes were. Why now after all this time??
I had a toothbrush in my mouth when it hit me: breaking the silence I imposed upon us was for me.
My stoic acceptance of his decision to end the relationship without so much as a discussion about it, my reluctant agreement to be friends because that’s what he needed, my heartbreaking realization that I still loved him and had to say goodbye, my stifled, private rage at discovering a trail of lies and blatant dismissal of everything I’d ever wanted, my enduring pain at seeing his car every day and sustained, low-level anxiety of running into him while at home. I did all of that alone — he bore not one ounce of the burden, not for one second — I kept it all.
It seemed to me during our few times meeting as friends in the 9 months after we broke up that whenever I let my pain become evident, let it slip out ever so slightly, he would cringe. Whether it was from guilt, fatigue, or disdain I have no idea, but I was intent on buttoning up more tightly for two reasons: 1) I didn’t want him to have anything of me and 2) I didn’t want to hurt him.
As I wrestled with the leaching reality of abandonment and betrayal I believed that responding to it would be losing something. I didn’t want him to get anything from me ever again — not one calorie of energy — even the pain, sorrow, and stifling lack of trust he left behind.
And even though he absolutely deserved to see the lacerations of his lies upon me I didn’t want him to feel badly. That would be a direct link to my issue with ever being open about my real feelings about someone or something. If my feelings hurt or upset someone then they are implicitly wrong, right??
And now it seems that what I did was create a void where all that feeling had no where to go but to me and so I have festered. I have fucked, flaked, fought, and floundered until I am completely and utterly uninterested in not only men in general, but even sex. Why bother when every time I let a dick get near me it literally disappoints me? Think about the double entendre there. It’s intentional.
He replied today, overly friendly to be honest. How dare he call me his pet name after everything he’s done to me? Should I list them all for you or just hyperlink like crazy?? The point is, the tone of my note was not familiar, so why respond to it in such a way? It wasn’t appropriate.
He said he was saddened to hear of my trust issues because he can relate due to his own. Not that he was saddened to hear it because he clearly contributed to them. But because he can relate. Well, awesome. Thanks.
He gave me a better email to use and invited me to text, but I no longer have his number and I don’t yet know what to say to him. I feel a volcano of emotion about to erupt, that needs purging. I want him to know what the last two years have been like for me with his odd internet stalking of my AFF profile, seeing his goddamned car every goddamned day, and the anxiety of a run-in I carry with me despite my best efforts to exorcise it. (It’s possible had I never run into him and his girlfriend at the gym that the threat would have ever crossed my mind, but it did and so it does.)
Some will think this is a huge mistake; I’ve already gotten closure, moved on. It’s been two years! they’ll say. Others will think there never was closure and this is a good path forward; Show him, girl! Tell him!
But what do I need from this? I didn’t write the first note expecting anything in return, but what I got was friendly in tone and communal. It wasn’t bad. But there was a sensitivity missing, a subtle nod to what that must have taken for me to finally write. His response wasn’t somber enough. This man broke me and he replied to me like a long-lost close office mate whose 9-5 life he once shared.
I’m still contemplating all of this. What I want to do is not at all clear. That stupid 150 word email has begun to peel a long-suffering scab atop a festering wound and I feel like a stranger in a strange land. I only know how to be controlled and at a protective distance. How do I do this whole This is the truth deal?
I hope there are still some who read me; any words of wisdom are more than welcome. I need help. I am at a complete loss. But maybe this will be the end of it?
I remember a time when you reached for my hand. Your warm skin on mine startled me. I pulled away.
We continued to walk towards the theater and I awkwardly explained my reaction. That we were just to be friends; no hand holding is allowed in a friends with benefits situation. You seemed to shrug and keep walking.
In the darkened theater our hands molded to each other’s thighs and dipped below belts and skirts. That was ok.
Two years and 2 months of driving past his building and seeing his car every. single. fucking. day.
Two years and 2 months of walking to the office or the pool or the gym and, knowing I could run into him, walked that stiff, cameras-are-on-me walk.
Two years and 2 months of never letting my guard down when I go out, of scanning every room quickly to assess his presence.
Two years and 2 months of keeping my head down while I grocery shop because it’s better to be truly ignorant than it is to feign it.
Two years and two months of him visiting my AFF profile and leaving a digital trail.
It’s also been two years and two months since I’ve had the kind of sex that made my body vibrate and weep with abandon.
Two years and two months since I laid my hands on a rock-hard, big, beautiful, long and achingly curved cocked.
Two years and two months since I thought anyone loved me.
Two years and two months is a long time.
The pain has faded, as it is supposed to do, but it’s like stale, lingering perfume. No matter how much I’ve scrubbed it remains.
I’ve allowed myself to mourn, pushed myself forward, carefully kept an eye on what I need. I go to therapy every week and write more words about heartbreak than I care to own. And still, he lingers.
He lingers because I am not truly free. His specter haunts me via his proximity, his fancy black car, even his downtown office. And most of all, he haunts me because I feel violated.
I feel violated that he visits my profile and knowingly leaves the proof of his presence.
He could switch to invisible browsing at the very least (it’s how I operate the site) or he could just choose to leave me the fuck alone all together.
I blocked him for several weeks to give myself a respite from his stalking, to not see him in my visitor’s list, and it felt good, like taking my vitamins — this was good for me, after all. And then I felt like I didn’t need it anymore, like, surely by now I’d be out of his regular AFF routine or maybe he’d have just realized how inappropriate it was and stopped altogether. So I unblocked him.
But I was wrong.
Within 36 hours he visited.
And I was crushed.
I wanted it to be over, to not have to be the one to impose a protective shield. I want him to leave me alone because he wants to leave me alone. Not because I’ve blocked him.
It’s the difference between getting a restraining order and knowing there’s an outside force imposing reasonable thought to someone and your stalker moving on on his own. One feels less safe than the other, I assure you.
The fact that he indulges in his curiosity — or whatever the fuck it is — makes my skin crawl and traps me in this static, hovering place. I feel smothered, vulnerable, sad, confused, angry, violated.
Isn’t it enough that despite making 6 figures annually and having all the financial freedom in the world he chooses to remain at the gates of my life? That he hasn’t fucking moved away? I just signed my 3rd lease. Surely his next will be the one he chooses to not renew, right? Does he also have to infringe on my online world, too??
He could even be reading this blog and I wouldn’t know since I never tracked his IP address when I had the chance. He could be one of the 20 or so local readers last week for all I know. I hope he does read it. At least here I feel in control.
I don’t know how to exorcise myself of him and I feel cloaked in his dysfunctional fog on two fronts: my life in general and my love life.
Will he be at this restaurant with a date? My new gym? Will I ever get to have the kind of sex we shared again? Will I always know what I’m missing?
It doesn’t matter that I have told myself exactly what I’d say or do if I ever ran into him, I still have to think about it in the first place. It’s a part of me I constantly don’t have; it’s always running to protect myself.
He is everywhere and I hate it. And I hate that I hate it.
It was a tender moment between us — good sex, spectacular sex — and it wiped out the doubt and worry I lived with about him and had me hopeful for our future. I contemplated what we did next with our relationship, moving it forward. I was the girl who got all dressed up for the dance and her date had entirely other plans. Somewhere else.
And then, the day after I wrote the words he walked into my house and left me. Technically we ended it 2 weeks later, but the truth is he left me the night he said he wanted a break. Perhaps it was the last time he was buried inside of me; a real goodbye fuck.
In the weeksthat followed we cried together as I begged him for a reason why. “I don’t know, Hy. I just don’t want to be in a relationship,” he’d say wearing a sad, heavy face like a drama mask.
Spring turned into summer and our meetings were less tearful and more reorienting. “If we’re going to be friends, then you can’t hide things from me, TN,” I’d gently lecture. “I don’t want details, but friends tell each other when they’re dating someone.”
“Don’t worry. I’m not dating anyone, I promise. I have no interest.”
He was working out early in the mornings by then, bootcamp at dawn. I couldn’t get him up before 9 am when we dated. He’d said he wasn’t a morning person and never would be. He did yoga, was kayaking, even hanging out with his workout crowd.
My birthday was in late summer and the night he took me out to a fancy dinner to celebrate he complained about how tired he was because of the hot yoga he’d done in the morning and when I pressed and asked if he was doing it for a woman he claimed it was with “just a bunch of middle-aged women” from his bootcamp. “Don’t worry. I’m not dating,” he’d added unprovoked.
The next day I ended our friendship amidst his protests and angry, mournful tears. I was still in love with him and watching him change into the kind of man I’d always wanted him to be right before my eyes was too painful, a slap in the face of my ill-conceived sacrifice to accept him as he was. What a fucking idiot I was.
That fall, a mere weeks after saying my final goodbye, I ran into him with a woman at my favorite gym class. A class that I had introduced him to and which we had attended together for a year. She was pale and pretty and he struggled to ignore me even as he paid her every ounce of his attention.
A couple of weeks later I stumbled on his Facebook page filled with pictures of him with the same dark-haired woman. I was devastated. Everything – everything – he had told me about himself was a lie.
Apparently he was the kind of man who went out to parties and concerts and yoga. He dressed up for Halloween and brought her to his work events. He was snapped kissing her and beaming a 100-watt smile at the camera with her in his arms. And he allowed her tag the ever-loving-shit out of him on Facebook whereas I was forbidden from giving even the slightest hint of our association with each other on social media beyond friendship.
I was glad I had preemptively ejected him from my life based on not only my ongoing feelings for him but the deeply held, but as yet unproven belief that he was lying to me. (Posthumously and accidentally discovering hidden profiles seeking alternative sexual relationships with women during our active relationship helped cement my feelings about him lying.)
I was left in shreds. Barely myself. I limped along month after month of 2016 fully free of him in my life, but was repeatedly reminded of his existence — both because he remained in our complex and because about every week or so he would visit my Adult Friend Finder profile, deliberately leaving a visitor trail.
It’s now nearly two years to the day he abandoned me out of a troubled left field and I still — still — miss him.
I miss our easy rapport, our shared politics, our chemistry, our love. And by far most of all — because I’m beyond and round the bend of the other things — I miss his fucking cock.
Since we’ve split I’ve had 20, 30 more and not one has come close in making me feel the things he did. Bones was an approximation, David was massive and fat but didn’t have the curve and length, Remington never let go despite having a lot to work with.
Everyone else had curves, lengths, and girths that just didn’t compare and despite my best efforts to refocus, let go, really enjoy and embrace what was in front of me I was left with a bitter aftertaste which was decidedly not TN.
Regardless of the shape and size of the penis — truly — the bottom line is no one has fucked me like he did, like he could.
He was a maestro with our bodies, perhaps I was, too. Playing each other like seasoned musicians. Eyes shut, feeling the chords, the notes, and the symphony in our bones.
Even that last meaningful night when he had assuredly decided he was leaving me and was completely checked out.
I can’t help but ask myself how is that even possible?? How can two people have that level of connection and pleasure while one is utterly gone?
I am ashamed and deeply humiliated at my gullibility and inability to move on. I’m afraid that no one will be able to supplant the memories with new and better ones. I’m scared I’m stuck.
Two motherfucking years and I have what feels like nothing to show for all my work, all my suffering, all my tearful, painful meanderings through the tangled paths of my heart.
I’m ashamed to share the depth of my broken-ness, of my mistrust, my longing. No one can penetrate the fortress I have built around my heart except for thosewhose proximity and viability are null. Men equal danger. They cannot be trusted. They don’t listen to me, they use me, they are not safe.
Therefore I will use them, chew them like bubblegum and rub my mound on their parts until my juices burst and runneth over and the sticky-sweet bubbles pop on my puckered lips.
I wonder if he ever thinks of me. In general. I know he must considering he visits my AFF profile regularly, but I mean in real life. Does he have anxiety about getting his mail? Driving in and out? I’m long since past all that, but the ghost of his cock lingers in my psyche, my pussy, my heart.
I have fucked everything that walks in an effort to replace him and to heal and all to no avail. I’ve hoped love would find me and now I’m hoping to find love.
The only thing left to try at this point is not fucking at all except I’m failing at that, too — of course — but I’m hanging in there with the hope and the will to push forward. If I found someone like him once, surely I can find someone like him (but better) again. Right??