Tomorrow morning, at the crack of dawn, I’ll haul my body out of bed and to my boot camp again. The preternaturally youthful looking silver-haired personal trainer will flounce around on his toes and correct my form and I will sweat all the sweaty bullets and feel really accomplished by 9am.
Tonight, I will stay my fingers and text no one, though truthfully, I want to text no one, so that’s good news. I want to do what comes naturally to me, but I’m sick of being rejected and rebuffed.
The mathematics involved in dating today exhaust me and infuriate me. I thought if you dug someone you made sure they knew it. I was wrong. You actually do your own thing and think about them whenever. That’s when you let them know you think of them. If then. Maybe not. Probably not.
I’m so over it.
I don’t like it when men are up in my grill. I like the chase. Everyone does. So do they. Me throwing myself at them eliminates the challenge. My openness, my clarity, my transparency. It’s a turn-off. That’s what I’m surmising.
And it’s all I can do, surmise.
I’m not privy to the Man’s Brain Handbook. I’m getting hit on from all sides and I’m bouncing around the room, not sure where I’m supposed to look. I just know I’m not biting. I’m not interested.
I’m going analog, though. No more online dating. It’s going to be old school for me.
I’ve asked a man out on my softball team, but he appears to have ignored my invitation. I only have his email, so I had to use what I had. Cheesy and less than ideal, yes, but whatever. I’m just not going to be anything but me. Awkward, vulnerable, awful me.
I want something, I can feel it. Can you feel it? It’s real, it’s wonderful, it’s solid. It’s also embarrassingly humiliating being this exposed.
I hate it.
“C” is for completely confoundingly crushingly clueless.
I grew up riding horses. I can’t remember a second of my life not being obsessed with those animals. I like to joke that it’s my grandmother’s fault for buying me a little stuffed horse for me before I was born, but who knows? Maybe it’s just in my genes.
When I was ten, my dreams finally came true and I started taking English riding lessons at a nearby barn and I’ll never forget my first lesson horse, Rio. Rio was a bay Arabian and calm enough, but I was warned that he would take advantage of me at the first opportunity. He’d stomp his feet as I groomed him, lean into me and try to pin me against a wall, go from a trot to a walk if I didn’t stay on him.
I soon outgrew that barn and moved to a 5000 acre mountain top ranch with 50 lesson horses at my disposal. I spent the next 7 years’ worth of weekends working on that ranch. I ate my lunch in the hay barn 25 feet high surrounded by the sweet smell of hay and alfalfa, I swam with horses in the pond on the cross country course, I watched Olympian Mike Plumb give clinics — I even rode for him once!, I groomed hundreds of animals, tacked them up and got them ready for their lessons, I watched polo games and couriered for events before there were fancy gizmos. I learned to be tough, expect the unexpected, and to be the boss.
There wasn’t one horse there, no matter how well-schooled, that wouldn’t try to remind you in some way that the agreement we had required constant attention. The human was the boss, but the horse was letting you take charge.
Long term relationships aren’t unlike that horse-human relationship. The horse may have been tamed, but it remains persnickety; it will run you into a tree given the first opportunity. And if you think it won’t, well, you’re a goddamned idiot.
That’s what’s recently happened with The Neighbor and me. We forgot to pay attention and we got scraped off by a branch. The Resentment and Boredom Branch. At least, I did.
It just all seemed so easy. There’s no more cloak and dagger, defiance and denial. Even a year ago and I was wrestling with what to reveal and how to proceed. It was equal parts exhausting and exciting, and I had to do a lot of work. But I loved the challenge.
These days, excitement lies in hitting my budget, not in getting laid.
We love each other, he takes care of me, and we are slowly venturing towards a little threesome as I let my guard down about allowing him closer to Peyton. It’s all wonderful wonderful wonderful.
I don’t long for chaos or drama, but there was energy there. Spikes of passion and feelings. TN recently started a new job and he adores it. I don’t exactly adore the 70+ hours he’s pouring into it, but I want to support him, so I’m not bitching.
However, should I worry that in the last several weeks, we’ve gone from having sex three times a week to once a week? I’m too tired, he’s too tired, we connect in different ways BECAUSE WE LOVE EACH OTHER and then we sleep.
And when we do do it, it’s the same routine. He gets hard, I spread my legs, he kills me, we stop. We rarely change positions anymore, but I can’t tell if that’s a problem, because it’s all so easy. Plus, we’re having sex, it’s just tired-people-sex, not jungle-monkey sex.
Our horse plods along even as I struggle with feelings of boredom and fear that we, as I loved us, are over.
Then, we got a slap on the rear: TN and I butted heads.
I ran out of my birth control pills and had a week to refill them after knowing I had 2 months to get all my ducks in a row. I needed to make some phone calls and switch over to my Obamacare, etc., but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. So we were birth control free for two blissful weeks.
Too bad those two responsibility-free weeks were marred by the The Neighbor bitching and moaning about having to wear a “hefty bag” on his dick.
I wanted to kill him.
Things came to a head the other day when, after another 12 hour day, he came over to hang out. We watched Game of Thrones and went to cuddle. He asked if I’d gotten my pills yet. I said, “No, and so it’ll likely be another two weeks.”
He was incredulous and couldn’t understand why I hadn’t “just done it.” Wasn’t it a priority for me? I explained to him that I’d been busy — which was true — but I failed completely at describing the level of irritation, almost animosity, I feel at taking that goddamned pill every fucking day.
I told him it was also good for me to be off of it for a little while; being on it for more than 10 years increases health risks for women. He didn’t believe me and kept repeating that he “just didn’t get it.” My heart began to beat faster as I laid next to him wondering what the fuck was happening.
“You go buy some fucking Tic Tacs,” I said, “and after taking them around the same time every day for 3 years, let’s talk.”
Then, he said with a distant look in his eye, “I don’t even know why we’re arguing. I checked out of this conversation six minutes ago.”
I hit the roof, thanked him for also being condescending as well as a giant baby about using condoms, and continued to argue my case.
We managed to wriggle out from under that one without too much trouble that night, but the next day I spent a good 3 hours of my life on the phone and driving all over town trying to get birth control (which I did), but I was mad about it. Poor baby, can’t wear a fucking “hefty bag” on his dick to give me a goddamned break for a while. And it’s not like the guy even cums anyway!! I thought angrily.
Pills finally in hand I told him of my travails. He congratulated me, genuinely, but didn’t thank me. I lugged around resentment the rest of the day wondering what had happened to the old TN and Hy. The ones who didn’t taste the bitterness of resentment, that is.
That night he came over and as we lay together in bed we began to talk about our day.
When it was my turn, I very matter of factly said, “Look, I really need for you to say ‘Thanks, Hy for going to all that trouble to get the pills!’ because it isn’t just about losing a day to phone calls and errands. I carry all of the responsibility for us not getting pregnant. It fucks with my hormones if I miss a day and it’s $30 out of my pocket a month, which isn’t a lot, I know, but it’s a lot to me. And there you were complaining about wearing condoms –”
He stopped me there and apologized profusely for being a jerk, for the unfairness of it all, and for all the work and money I have to put into keeping up this form of birth control which I do for us.
I felt my resentment and anger zip out of me like air from a balloon. And, just like that, I was energized and perky. AND HORNY.
I was almost as shocked at my ardor as I was at his apology.
But that had been a challenge! We’d mentally sparred and parried. We’d had to work at something to get back on track. Woohoo! Let’s fucking fuck, buddy! Giddy-up!
I sensed a similar change in TN. It was a Tuesday night, another end to another 12 hour day and he should be drained, but he was buzzing instead, like me.
I stroked his beard and looked at him lovingly, openly. He stared back at me and we kissed.
I dropped my hand to his bulge. It was hard. He peeled back the covers and ran his hand from my knee to the top of my thigh and sneaked his fingers under my purple, polka-dot jammy shorts.
His eyes widened when he realized I wasn’t wearing panties, and his fingers moved the plump skin apart and slipped inside. I was wet and felt jolts of excitement, like a long lost memory. He wasn’t going to just spread my knees and push himself inside of me like we’ve been doing! He was starting a different kind of dance.
I closed my eyes and threw my head back as his hand slammed into me and I poured myself into his cupped hand. He kissed my neck and suckled on my breast through my white t-shirt. I came again.
“Wow,” he said, “I haven’t fingered you in forever!” I only nodded, but wanted to shout, “I KNOW!!”
He pulled away then and removed his clothes and came back and roughly removed my shorts and spread my knees as he positioned himself between them. He already had a condom on, the sneaky boy.
I smiled at his caution and pulled off my own shirt. The bedside light lit us up as if we were just reading books, but instead he filled me up with his cock, not words.
He moved into me until I could feel him in my throat. I moaned and cried and squealed and laughed when he put a pillow over my face. I giggled and sobbed into it and threw it off of me me determined to be quieter.
I grabbed his sides, clutched his muscles, hooked his haunches, lunged against him with all my might.
He kissed my collar bone and neck, behind my ear and my open, panting mouth. He blocked out the reading light somehow and became the sun.
I spun away with him as he hitched my ankle up, then down, then on my side for a minute. Finally, he was spent and we lay still, spooning.
I felt as though we had done more than copulate. We’d recalibrated. Perhaps TN and Hy need to be challenged more and we’d forgotten about that.
We got tired, settled into a routine, we forgot to be empathetic. Maybe we’re the horse and not the rider and we needed to remind ourselves of who’s in charge. Neither of us.
He kissed me and disengaged and came to lay on my other side. I got my little pink vibrator and asked him to masturbate for me. He lay on his back and tugged and pulled on his erection as I watched and listened to him. fap fap fap fap
My own orgasm was tricky, but reliable, and finally swelled around me after he abandoned his own stroking to squeeze my breast and kiss me deeply and wetly instead.
His soft, hot tongue juxtaposed against his scratchy beard, his everything filling my senses, blocking out everything but my pleasure. His desire to pleasure me pushed me right over the edge.
When I was done he confessed he wasn’t able to cum. I looked at him not with sadness, but with tenderness and he stroked my temple as I came back to earth beside him.
We kissed and said nice things and it felt exactly like I wish it always could. I just don’t know if it’s possible. A long term relationship isn’t the fresh horse it used to be. It’s a horse that’s been ridden for a while; its tricks and triggers, its needs and plans are no mystery. Sometimes it feels like the kind of work that’s tedious.
I wish I knew how to get the zip back into our lives without making head butting foreplay. I’m too sensitive for that. And I bruise easily.
I also wish this was as easy as riding a damn horse. I had that one all figured out by 15. At least I know how to climb back on.
I blinked in the sunlight that streamed through my windows and stretched like the cat who lay on my pillow purring like a crazed motorboat. He’ll be here soon, I thought, and as if on cue, I heard the front door open and close and the cat tore off to greet our visitor.
“Good morning, TN!” I called.
“Good morning, Hyacinth!” he called back.
I fixed my eyes on the doorway and let him fill my view as he sauntered in, sheet marks pressed into his skin and his eyes puffy, but his cock enormous and jutting out against his shiny black basketball shorts.
I giggled at the image of his exhaustion mingled with a giant erection.
He walked up to the side of the bed and pulled himself free of his shorts, his taut, pink skin a slightly curved appendage for my viewing pleasure.
I wrapped my hand around it. “Mmm,” I said and stood up. “I have to pee. I’ll be right back!”
When I came back out he pushed me roughly down onto the bed and licked his hand. “I doubt I needed to do this. Hmm, let’s see. Could Hyacinth be wet already?”
“It’s possible,” I answered looking up at him. “You wake up with that monster between your legs everyday. I happen to wake up wet everyday.” He pushed at my opening and sure enough he slid right in.
We moved together in the sunlight, carefully avoiding each other’s morning breath and hugged and humped and clutched and climaxed. He pinned my legs onto his shoulders and moved until I was begging him to stop and then with a puffy-eyed grin kept going.
We were done relatively quickly, it being the morning and all. He gently removed himself from me and lay beside me. “Hang on,” I said and rolled over and grabbed my phone, something I’d done alone for so long.
I began taking pictures of us freshly post-coital. It felt intimate and odd, like a salty candy that gives you two flavors at once.
He left shortly after to go to work and I smiled, stupidly happy.
And then I realized how uncomfortable I am with happiness and how I am doing my best to destroy what little peace I’ve finally managed to accomplish with him: I suggested that he fuck other women.
The night I came up with this grand plan I had just met his parents. Over the course of roughly 4 and a half hours I’d had a glass of white wine while getting dressed, a glass of Prosecco before dinner, and a glass of Rosé with my scallops, but when I’d suggested it to him he seriously wondered if I were drunk.
“I trust you, TN, I really do. And I’m proud of you and I think you’re amazing in bed. I want you to be able to go out and have fun.”
He just looked at me, dumbfounded as I blithely continued. “No, really. I’m so happy with you, I want you to be happy, too.”
“Ok…” he said, incredulous. “But why the change of heart? You’ve never felt this way before.”
“It’s because you told me you loved me and I feel safe with you, content. I really feel like I could handle it.”
I’d dozed off then on his warm, furry chest and forgotten all about it. But he hadn’t.
The following day he brought it up again. “So, what you said the other night. Do you still mean it? Or were you just drunk?”
It all came rushing back to me: the warm glow of acceptance, the sense of safety, this ridiculous drive to prove I were invincibly in love with him. What.the.fuck. But I was too embarrassed to back out. “No, really, I do,” I replied and then began that weird dance that people in open relationships do wherein they try to think of every possible thing they can’t handle: no two dates with the same woman, no threesomes without me, no lies, everything has to be transparent to me. Then, of course I asked if he’d care if I slept around.
He was thoughtful, then said he’d be ok with me and another couple, but not with another man. I told him I couldn’t imagine fucking another man anyway, I already had my unicorn firmly in my grasp. He’d smiled at that and then I felt a twinge of something, like a tiny splinter: why would he want to fuck another woman? aren’t I good enough? the best? And that’s when I knew I was full of shit and actively trying to sabotage my own happiness.
The next night, after the sweet, yet brief morning love session, I came to him with hat in hand, sheepish and utterly embarrassed. “You’re right, TN. I can’t handle it. I think I’m just really uncomfortable with how happy I am. I mean, look, we’ve only been this kind of happy for 3 months and I’m already looking to inject it with chaos.”
He pulled me into his nook and stroked my arm. “I thought so,” he said. “Besides, I’m not a player. I’m really not that interested in opening this up.”
I’m almost 40 years old and this is a humiliating moment for me. I left a marriage that was safe, yet passionless, and embarked on a wild year or two of no safety whatsoever, but chocked full of passion. I manage to cultivate a passionate — and safe — relationship and the first thing I try to do is dismantle it.
After everything we’ve been through — 4 am girl, my secret sex blog, his resistance, my anger — we’ve made it. He wants me and my entire life and I am inexplicably uncomfortable with his unconditional regard despite my longing for just this very thing. I am a stupid bastard.
So for now we have agreed to just be happy with each other and I’ve vowed to immerse myself in this new sensation called happiness. It’s strange and terrifying, but I happen to like salty candy so I’m going to keep chewing.
Metaphorically speaking I’m covered in jizz. I’ve exposed my heart and pushed the game into sudden-death overtime. Or at least that’s what it feels like.
When I told him I loved him after Christmas last year I shared it in that selfish way the guilty do when they confess: it was eating me up inside to not tell him. What if something happened to one of us and I’d never let those words fall on his ears? I couldn’t live with myself. I can keep a [very] modestly popular blog about our sex life secret, but not my feelings. Even I have my limits.
What I didn’t expect, truly, was how it would catapult us into a different relationship, a new color. We are openly loving and growing more so every day. My thinking is different somehow, softer. But he knew, which is why he deliberately kept his feelings from me.
When I pressed him for answers — incredulous that he had known since the moment I broke up with him days before our awful 4 am girldebacle that he was in love with me — about how he could live with himself if something had happened to me and I’d died without truly knowing his feelings he’d said he would have hated himself, yes, but he’d have lived.
The literalness of his thinking knows no bounds, Internet Boyfriend. Of course he’d have survived, but would there have been regret? The answer, thankfully, was yes.
So imagine my surprise to be on this fast track to full-blooded relationship just because we’ve admitted our love to one another. I thought his reluctance would pretty much keep us in a holding pattern forever and while it’s definitely still there, it’s also vastly reduced to the point which I am wondering if this is all a good idea, is it really sustainable? Are we real if he’s not resisting?
My move away will be the test. We will have to make an effort to see one another, overnights will become a necessity not a treat, he will have to be flexible when now he’s as stiff as a board. Will we manage it?
I want to say yes because we love each other, but I know better than most that love doesn’t conquer all. Granted, The Neighbor and I seem to have a pretty solid base, but there’s still things I worry about: his lack of friends or desire for them, his reclusiveness, the fact that he’d have been “ok” letting me die having never known he loved me. What the ever loving fuck.
And this is all related to having had a sexless marriage. He’s similar to my exhusband in all the ways I just listed. Apparently, I have a “type.” The definition of a sexless marriage is generally agreed upon by experts to be having sex 10 or less times in a year. If I remember correctly, I managed to get my ex to fuck me roughly every 6 weeks. Sometimes every 4, if I was lucky. For basically 6 years.
I never want that to happen to me again because it is a dark and ugly place to be and the closer I become to TN the more afraid I am of us morphing into something I don’t recognize like what happened to me before. I made one bad decision after another when I met my ex 10 years ago. Am I still making them?
I go through the list: TN and I match up in so many ways in which my exhusband and I didn’t. He’s always kind to me, he accepts me the way I am, he appreciates my looks, my body, and my sex drive, and he’s not once been overwhelmed by my exuberance for life, friends, family and the world like my ex was continually. He is, quite literally, the freshest breath of air I’ve had in years.
All this to say in a backwards, convoluted way: I feel loved, y’all.
Fucking loved and seen and wanted and loved again. I feel things with TN I’ve never felt before and I am like a heroine addict. It must never end or I may die in an explosion of cocks and balls and salty tears on strange pillows. I have never dared to love like this before and now I get to experience [an almost] constant fear of loss. It’s not unlike being a parent and feeling instantly bereft at the thought of something happening to your baby, yet knowing you have utterly no control over their fate or yours. I am an exposed nerve.
So, there you have it. I’m covered in jizz. I’m all over the place. I’m filled to the brim with gooey love and terrified of a future that either mirrors what I left or one that doesn’t exist at all.
I wish I had a jizz picture for you. That’d be so much better.
[Ed. Note: What’s really interesting about this post is that the “I’ve blown my wad” title was going to refer to me showing you my LOOSE Boobday picture two days earlier because I couldn’t wait to share it. Funny how the brain works.]
It’s boring to keep saying I have an amazing sex life.
But, I do.
I can’t help it.
I live next door to a young man who has grown exponentially in the almost two years we’ve been dancing inside of each other. He knows the switches to flip, the dials to turn, the words to seethe between gritted teeth.
He’s mastered contrition and acquiescence with a look and a softening of his bones and he’s become fluent in my language of sensitivity and large need.
I was asleep before he came along, walking through a dream. Now I am awake, the breeze slick on my eyeballs, the birds in my ears, the flowers tangled upon my face.
I cannot go back to less than this. I will die. Like I was dead before him. A hull of a woman.
It scares me, this new Technicolor life I have with him. I don’t want it to go away. And that in turn terrifies twice over.
Does this mean I make compromises I shouldn’t? That I roll when I should dig?
Should Love be a part of my vocabulary, fill the space around me with its sound and feel? I believe I feel it, but I never hear it.
Does my fear of loss keep me from asking for what I really want?
I cried to him the other night while faced with the terrible thought: him or my baby? Of course, there is no question, no hesitation, my baby would win. My child needs me to fight and advocate, to protect. The Neighbor has permission to be a part of our lives only, but he’s not in it. Not yet.
“You need to understand that Peyton is innocent, TN, and I do not appreciate the way you’ve been behaving around my baby the past couple of days.” The tears leaked down my cheeks as I said the sad words. “You will not be welcome here if you can’t be better. That child is everything, my number one priority, and it’s my job to keep it that way. Do you understand me?”
He looked at me silently over the chess board he’d set up for us, shocked.
“Anyone in my life would feel honored to read a bedtime story, but not you. You roll your eyes and run out of the house on an errand and an excuse.” I paused and put my head in my hands again, then lifted my tear-streaked face to his waiting one. “Please, please, tell me I have this all wrong and that you do care for Peyton, that you care for the little heart that’s in that body and that you don’t just ‘endure’ the child.”
As the words left my mouth he jumped to respond.
“God, no! No, not at all!! Hy, I’m so, so sorry if I’ve made you feel that way. I just didn’t want to be around anybody tonight. No one! I didn’t mean to roll my eyes when Peyton was talking to me. Please, you’ve got to understand I’m just in a really terrible mood!” He sounded sincere.
“Then don’t come over here. Don’t do me any favors. If you’re in that bad of a mood to not see the perfection and love that’s in that little person, then stay away. You’re not welcome.” I said it gently, but with a mother’s righteousness.
He nodded that he understood and I cried some more as I remembered my own stepfather, the eye rolls, the impatience, his lies and deceit. And how little I felt, how useless and empty.
“Or maybe,” TN suggested quickly, “You’re dealing with someone with absolutely zero experience with kids.” He let that hang in the space between us.
“Is that the case?” I sniffled, hopeful. “Really??”
“Yes,” he said earnestly, almost panicked that I might not believe him. Then he seemed to have a sudden idea, that maybe this was going in the wrong direction.
“I like being around Peyton, Hy, but I don’t come over here to play with your kid, I come here to be with you. You know that, right? There’s a difference. ” As if to say, Don’t make this more than it is, Hy. We’re still just “having a good time together.” “But, I do enjoy Peyton’s company. It’s just hard for me sometimes.”
I nodded sadly, but I felt better I get it. Little kids are nose-picking, million-question-asking, innocent angels. It’s a tough combination for the uninitiated. “I’ve never dated anyone while I had a kid before, TN. This is new to me. And you and I have,” I searched for the right words to convey “idiotic”, “an unconventional, non-traditional type of relationship. We’ve never discussed Peyton before in relation to our relationship before. We needed to talk about this.”
“I don’t know what Peyton see’s at my ex’s and with his girlfriend. Am I modeling the wrong kind of relationship by not having certain things??” Namely, the unspoken Love and commitment that TN and I never discuss. “Does it matter? Does our loving, positive, sweet relationship make up for what it’s not??” I let the questions hang and TN said he didn’t know either.
Then he said he was a little hurt that I didn’t seem to see any of his sweetness with my baby. He reminded me about how wonderful he has been over the last year he’s been in our lives. The long talks, the patient playing, the sweet hellos and goodbyes. And it’s all true. He’s always been good to my baby and Peyton loves TN like any little person can. He’d only been noticeably cranky with my sweet one for two days.
I don’t know what kind of impact he’s having on Peyton in the bigger picture. Peyton would surely notice an absence if we separated — like when the neighborhood stray cat finally disappears: Where’d Kitty go? Hmm. Ooh! Look at that bug! La dee da — but my baby would be ok. It’s my job to ensure that people’s’ departures don’t cause the house to crumble, after all.
We smiled sweetly at each other from our chairs and I giggled my relief, happy we had survived this small tempest. I felt closer to him. And then I nearly beat him at chess, my first game ever.
Are moments like this a bigger deal than I make them out to be because I don’t want to know that TN, my sweet lover and love, really isn’t a good fit for my life with my baby? Do I make excuses for him?
My amazing sex life — and my easy heart — have me confused.
So, yes, I have a lot of great sex, but I also have a half-cocked heart and a muddled relationship. It’s not all roses for Hyacinth.
When you read about my hot encounters remember I never hear, “I love you, Hy.” I don’t see love in his eyes, I don’t plan for our future together. I don’t hold his hand and I don’t even know if I should invite him to my baby’s upcoming birthday party.
In the days that followed, it seemed that he made special efforts to connect with Peyton and with me. My shaky worrying about the state of our affair abated. Just a little. I felt lighter, back floating on a little cloud of denial. Or maybe it’s real happiness. I honestly can’t tell.
Big, juicy cock, fingers in a cunt, eyes locked in lust, tears slipping into the shells of my ears, blooms of orgasms that opened my soul. Just the usual bullshit in these parts.
“I’m happy to know you,” I said one night, curled in his nook, tears wet on my face, as my body fell back into place. It was my “I love you.”
He sighed into my hair, maybe he kissed my temple. “I’m happy to know you, too.”
Perhaps it was his “I love you, too.” I don’t know, but the sex was good.
“You look so hot right now,” he said looking down at me from between my calves. “You’re like a little sex package.”
His cock, buried deep inside of me twitched and then he pushed in deeper. I gasped and fluttered my eyes up at him. “I feel more like a sex pretzel,” I replied and pushed back against him from my grip on the headboard.
I couldn’t move. My ankles rested on his shoulders and his weight pinned my thighs to my breasts which tried to escape over my shoulders. I was folded in swells of my own flesh and pinned by the muscular density of a man on top of me.
I was in heaven.
He came home a couple of hours early Sunday and surprised me by waltzing into my apartment unannounced. My bed was stripped and under a pile of laundry. I wasn’t prepared to see him, but my heart jumped when he filled the doorway.
I went to give him a hug, but he suddenly dropped to the floor, looking around under my bed. “Where’s the kitten?” he asked. I stood there with my mouth a little open.
My breasts were heavy and free under my white t-shirt and my little pajama shorts clung to my thighs, but there he was. On the floor. Looking for the kitten I’d gotten the day he’d left. Never underestimate a man’s priorities and brain, I told myself.
Mirthful, I smiled. “Hey! Come give me a hug!” There was a gentle reprimand in my voice — you pay attention to the woman first, not the cat — and I still wobbled on the beam of our relationship happiness.
We hugged and caught up then, a little stilted at first. He told me of his adventures and I of mine; he apologized for not being in touch, but he thought I knew he had no cell reception. Quickly, I unzipped the stifling suit of resentment I’d been wearing, butt hurt at the lack of weekend communication, and stepped out into a light breeze of acceptance. We lay on one another and laughed and touched and sniffed lightly, like two long-separated and friendly dogs now.
He left soon after, exhausted. He thanked me for the cookies I’d left on his doorstep and gave me a kiss.
Late last night he returned, his hair rumpled from an early-evening nap. My bed was made, the house spotless this time. I was in bed watching Mad Men, Peyton slept soundly in the room across the hall, and a candle flickered messily in the corner. The kitten purred and zipped around at his arrival like an ill-working moped.
The Neighbor is like a magic trick for my day. He enters a room and my spirits lift, my heart pounds, the birds sing. Even when I am confused or angry his presence tilts my view from the trash on the ground to the light filtering through the treetops. Sometimes my fear of losing him and us closes in on me and I have to beat it off with a stick, other times I feel serene at the prospect of setting us both free. But he was there in my room last night, determined to be with me despite his exhaustion and my heart swelled, and I didn’t think of anything except welcoming him in.
He walked around to his side of the bed and I went and tucked the kitten up under my arm and joined him in the bed. The kitten, Faisal, was geeked up on the drug that is kittenhood and sped off. TN took the lack of feline distraction as an opportunity to latch onto my breast with his face.
It wasn’t until that moment that I realized I hadn’t been touched in 5 days. I’d forgotten myself. His absence was so gentle, so quiet. My time was wholly my own and in my own presence, I forgot my own pleasure. No child, no pseudo-boyfriend to keep me occupied. I could have spent the entire weekend with my hand lashed to my cunt and the idea never crossed my mind. Is Hyacinth horny when no man is around to fuck her? What a thought…
I closed my eyes and reveled in the sandpaper scratch of his face on my skin and pressed into his mouth. We tangled and grabbed, gripped and rubbed. Faisal was taken to his room so there would be no stalking of swinging balls.
When TN slid into me I felt like I was myself again: Hyacinth, fuckable, sensuous, wanted, devoured. When he is in me I feel like I am home.
His grunts were as loud as the squelching of my pussy, his words demanding and unapologetic. He pinned me down and pounded into me and my g-spot blossomed big and hard and I concentrated on spiraling it out to my fingertips.
I panted and rolled my eyes into the back of my head and he sat up and folded my legs against my chest and pistoned into me like a jack hammer. I cried out into my arm so as not to awaken my baby.
Soon, he stopped and drooped a little. “I hurt everywhere!” he cried with a laugh and rolled off and took me with him into his arms. His first attempt at snowboarding officially thwarted our usual sexual antics.
I smiled into his skin and retrieved the kitten. He purred and played with us until we settled down to watch Game of Thrones at which point he decided to attack a tinkling feather on the floor.
I felt two strong emotions laying there in his arms. Never one to be truly content for long periods of time, my brow furrowed in the darkness as I tried to put my finger on it, this strange sense of unease. Nothing out of the ordinary had occurred. Quite the opposite, actually. I was wrapped in his arms and watching — we now suddenly realized — a Spanish version of episode 3 with Portuguese subtitles. It was hilarious and conventional, all the puppies and rainbows any self-respecting unicorn could shat out. But my nerves continued to be on edge, scratching at me.
I live in this space of uncertainty. I realize I yearn for what’s on the other side, yet thrive in the workspace before it. I constantly have to remind myself that nothing is in my control, I will survive heartache, -break, -demolition. I’ve done it before, I’ll do it again.
This is how I talk myself down from the ledge of permanence and of needing “answers.” The “Do you love me?”s, “What are we doing?”s, and “Am I your girlfriend?”s. I remind myself of my current happiness and how I am merely a sensitive observer of my own life; a willing participant, but nonetheless powerless to bend others to my will. And I relax a little knowing that I’m living my life the best way I know how.
And, ultimately, what I find most reassuring about his return — above and beyond his beautiful boyish face, his magnificent cock and his big, fat brain — is that I can send him titty pics again. That was the worst part of the 4 day separation. I couldn’t send him my uniquely Hyacinth love notes: my boobs, my body, and my smile.
Last night The Neighbor came over a little past 10. Peyton was soundly asleep and I was at my kitchen table doing some work.
I was tired, but happy to see him — a new morning gig has me up at the crack of dawn every day and 10pm more feels like 4am. I just looked at him with an open expression. He felt silly and made to leave. I told him to stop and to come closer and put his bubble butt “here, in my hand.”
He came closer and I discovered he had on tight workout clothes. Unacceptable. “What’s all this?” I asked.
“Oh. I tried to workout tonight, but my leg hurt, so I had to stop.” I rubbed his legs. “I think I hurt my knee yesterday on the stair climber.” I kept rubbing. “I’m going to go lie down now,” he said then and disappeared to my room.
I followed him, thoughtful. Hours earlier, I’d gone back to my writings of March of last year and reread them all. And I was mortified.
I ached for the woman I read on the pages. She was so confused, in a lot of pain, and wrestling with burgeoning feelings for her neighbor who told her repeatedly their affair would soon end and he would date the woman of his dreams, his future wife.
I read how he’d taken the-girl-who-wouldn’t-touch-him to his best friend’s birthday party and my stomach had clenched. This year, I was resoundingly not invited to the same best friend’s birthday dinner.
Immediately I thought back to the night several weeks ago when he told me 4 am girl and his ex girlfriend were different from me because, as he said “They were his girlfriends,” and I am not and I felt small and silly and misused.
I wrestled with the proverbial kick to my gut. Had I not just written an essay about how I wasn’t afraid of loss anymore? That I was in charge of myself and my feelings?? I dug deeper.
It wasn’t a fear of loss that was twisting me up. It was a feeling of being less-than, not as important, being tucked away in a dark corner. Not right.
I entered my room and took off my pants and climbed into bed with him, my mind in a flurry. “Just so you know, I’m too tired to fuck or get sucked,” he said. He reached out his arm to me and I sighed and snuggled into his nook. “Here,” he said lifting his shirt.
“That’s ok. Me, too.”
I giggled and pressed my nose to his warm, clean skin as I would a bouquet of fragrant roses. He smelled of strawberries and skin and love. “Mmm,” I purred, shoving thoughts from my brain. “My favorite place o be.”
He pulled the covers up over my head and I was encased in a strawberry scented biodome. We both giggled.
We cuddled then and I tried to forget about that girl from forever ago who was so easily allowed into an important part of his life when I am not, but it still bothered me.
And there was more: there were two other conversations we’ve had recently that had lodged in my skin like splinters. Splinters that I strained to ignore, but became inflamed last night.
There was the chat a week ago when I asked him if his best friend knew who I was yet. The answer is somewhat ridiculous: the best friend knows that TN’s fucking a woman named Hyacinth and that TN is close friends with his neighbor. The best friend doesn’t know she’s the same woman.
At the time I was in our usual position when alone: in his arms. “Well, that’s weird,” I countered playing with his chest hair, my feelings bruised.
He became defensive.
“It’s not ‘weird,’ Hy. He doesn’t care and neither do I.”
I felt sucker punched.
And the second talk took place two nights ago when I shared a disturbing dream with him.
We lay in bed, naked, and I was filled with embarrassment and dread. He was going to propose and I didn’t want him to. Like a sunrise I was unable to stop, he drew out a little chocolate cake-ball and inside — I knew — was the ring he’d painstakingly chosen for me.
I acted surprised and grateful and slipped it on. A round solitaire, big, but not gaudy. I told him neither yes or no, but asked for some time. In truth, I needed to figure out how to turn him down.
I didn’t want to marry him because I didn’t want to inflict him on Peyton; a man who’s sworn he could never love another man’s child will not be invited to be in my child’s life in that way. Though, you’d never know it by watching them together — he seems to enjoy and care for my baby –but I figured he’d forgotten about Peyton’s existence. Our time together is rarely a threesome.
What I shared with him was that he’d proposed, I wasn’t happy about it, didn’t really trust that it was him, and then the lengthy part of the dream wherein my mother lost her shit on me and co-opted my feelings.
I knew immediately it was a mistake telling him. He tensed and seemed strange and I could hear the wheels spinning in his fat brain. I knew what the dream meant and it certainly wasn’t the desire for a wedding with him. It actually represented my growing sense of closeness with him and the inevitable decision I am going to make for the safety of my child’s heart, which is to leave. Pretty simple. But what he heard was, “HY DREAMED I PROPOSED TO HER.”
And so last night, in my strawberry bubble of sweetness, I felt compelled to bring up the best-friend-birthday-dinner-thing to ward off a an early attack of the 90-day-Hy-freaks-out schedule (I’m due in April, in case you were wondering, so these early scrambles are actually like clock work).
I told him how I’d read my old journals from a year ago and I’d discovered the note about the girl. He explained that she was actually a part of that circle of friends and that’s why she was there. Where’s my dunce’s hat?, I wondered. What an epic fucking fail on my part.
As we talked he pushed my hand down his pants, but his tight shorts were restrictive. “Take these horrible things off,” I said. He raised his hips and slid them off and pulled down his underwear. His erection sprang free and he placed my hand on it. We kept talking.
“Are you weirded out?” I asked.
“Yeah, a little,” he admitted.
“I felt I had to tell you how I was feeling. I’m trying hard to communicate with you. Are you still freaking out about my dream last night, too?”
“Yeah. Wouldn’t you?”
“Why?” I asked squeezing his cock.
“Because, it’s a little upsetting!”
“But why? I never get inside your head. You have to tell me how you’re feeling or what you’re thinking.”
“Wouldn’t you be?” he said evading the question still.
“No, because I said clearly that I did not want to marry you and that I was upset that you’d proposed in the first place, but all you’re focusing on is the proposal part and not the rest!” I sighed. “I swear, I’m cool. I don’t want to marry you and I don’t want anything to change.”
“Ok, but you have to understand how that could freak me out because of the nature of our relationship.”
The “nature of our relationship”? What did that mean? Holy fucking shit. He still thinks we’re not together! All the breakups we’ve ever shared flashed before my eyes where we cried and my heart was ripped out; his icy blue eyes looking directly into my darker ones and saying, “I do not love you. You will never be my girlfriend.”
I cringed and took a deep breath, pretended that I totally agreed. Of course! The nature of our relationship precludes any kind of commitment or long-term feelings, therefore he has every right to be freaked the fuck out that I was dreaming about marrying him.
We cuddled a little longer. I felt stupid and like finding the nearest rock to climb under instead of basking on top of the warm rock of my lover’s body. He stood up and got dressed, tucked me in and gave me a long, easy kiss goodnight, his heart safely behind steel.
Countdown to Freakout #6 continues… also, how human am I?
I was at my kitchen table doing my secret sex blog stuff last night when I heard a faint knock at my door and saw The Neighbor’s head peek through. The rest of him, clad in a towel, followed. I knew he’d been in his tub and I’d told him I wished I was sitting on his toilet with a glass of wine shooting the shit, but he’d asked for a “TN night” and so I was content to do my own thing.
But, here he was.
He complimented me on my new dress and I complimented him on his giant, flaccid penis outlined by the white terry cloth. “I’m not here to fuck. I just wanted to hear about your interesting day.” He carefully repositioned the towel exposing his flanks. “C’mon, let’s go lay down.”
“Ok,” I agreed standing to follow him, “but I only said it was mildly interesting.”
I lit a candle and he crawled under the covers, losing the towel. I sat demurely on top of the duvet, an arm’s reach away. “Come in here,” he said and patted the spot beside him. “Ok, so, your day. What happened?”
“I had coffee with Jason.”
“Was that the guy who wanted to suck my dick?”
“He was one of them, yeah. We struck up a chat a few weeks ago on Facebook and decided to catch up. It was weird, but cool. He was also the guy who gave me a C for dirty talk.”
“What a fucking asshole!”
“Yeah, well, anyway, it was ok.”
I lay in his arms and played with his chest hair idly, the two margaritas and two glasses of wine in me emboldened me to parlay this into a deeper conversation. “How do you feel about me meeting him?”
He as quiet for a bit then said he didn’t mind. “What if I’d fucked him?”
“Then I’d be disappointed.” He paused here and thought. “I think I’d want to approve of any old or new lover you hooked up with and I’d want you to tell me so we would start using condoms again.”
“So I have permission to fuck other people?”
“I’m not sure… I don’t have permission to fuck other people, though, do I?”
I sat up and looked at him, nuzzled his face and his chest with my lips. “No, you don’t. You said you didn’t want to back in January. It doesn’t work that way. Have you changed your mind?”
Again, he was thoughtful. “No. No, I haven’t.”
“Are you sure?”
“Yeah, I’m sure.”
He grabbed my breasts and squeezed and I got up and kneeled between his knees, spread them slightly with my own. His massive thighs bright white against the dark aubergine sheet.
“Suck my cock now,” he growled. I grabbed his chubby cock and looked at him.
“No. What do you say?” I asked him with a soft smile.
“Fucking suck it now, you dirty fucking slut!” he tried again. My heart quickened and my smile grew.
But again, I said, “No. More.”
And in a sweet, soft voice he asked, “Will you please suck my cock, Ma’am?” and without delay I fell on the cock that had become as rigid as a soldier.
My dress pooled around my legs and my tits fell out of the top and my tender nipples dragged on his flexed thighs. I sucked and slurped and gripped and took little breaks to let his tension build.
When his erection was mighty, I didn’t want it in my mouth anymore and pulled my panties down. He pushed me to my back and lifted up my skirts and drove into me, my ankles hiked over his shoulders like a knapsack.
He lit into me like a man possessed, I managed to stare at his shadow-cast face, so beautiful and masculine, staring down at me for several moments before the pounding knocked my eyes shut. My pussy gushed and I squirted down my the crack of my bottom and moaned and gripped and clawed at him. He didn’t want things to change, was all I could think.
He slammed into me a few more times then held still. “I think I hurt my balls,” he winced. I laughed and hugged him.
“Oh, honey, that’s awful!” I crooned and kissed his neck, his head hung down dejectedly. He rolled off of me and disconnected. I was still happy about sneaking in “honey” as I gently fondled his sack. “We should put a pillow there or something next time!”
He chuckled. “I have a fluffy sports headband I could use!”
As we chatted in each other’s arms I continued to stroke his erection, never letting it waiver. “Do you think I could suck your cock?”
He nodded and I repositioned myself between his legs. I sucked and paused, sucked and waited, stroked and moaned. I told him how gorgeous his cock was, how much I loved sucking it. He teased me that I had seduced him, that he hadn’t planned on fucking me at all and I pointed out he was the one who had demanded I suck his cock in the first place. He giggled and I fell back down on him.
He burst into my mouth seconds later, his sweet laughter filled the darkened room. He shook his hands like little meaty helicopters.
I laid in his arms again for a little while then massaged his back with the Hitachi and brought myself to a little standing orgasm in between causing him to yell, “Kelly Clarkson!” from the intense vibrations on his sore spots.
We laid together finally then and talked some more and I teased him about our next break up which is due in April if we are to keep our 90-day Hy-freaks-out schedule. “Are we gonna break up and then get back together?” he asked, “or are we gonna break up break up?”
“What do you want to do?”
“I want to get back together.”
“Ok, then that’s what we’ll do.” He got up to go and I felt silly and a little guilty for everything, the double standards, my emotional demands. “Our relationship is an unconventional one, maybe we need unconventional maintenance, too,” I suggested. He nodded agreement and I walked him to the door while slipping on my favorite Obama shirt and a pair of white panties.
He crossed the 4 feet to his door, looked around, and let the towel drop. We smiled at each other and he walked into his apartment.
I need to say more, I think, let him know that I still love him. Or maybe that’s a silly idea and I should keep my mouth shut and be happy with his continued interest and fidelity.
Love is not always the answer and anyone who tells you so is full of shit. Love, sometimes, is the problem.
Friday night Tina turned to her boyfriend, Chuckles, and their lips puckered and connected. The girl with the faux-hawk behind them tossed a dirty look their way and I looked at The Neighbor surrounded by 20-somethings clad in ugly glasses, leather jackets, and skinny jeans, a mostly ignored Lone Star beer in his hand. He was a rose in a field of grass.
“We can’t let them win,” he said and grabbed me and pulled me against his pea coat. My lips parted in surprise as his icy blue eyes locked on mine and his own lips parted and came to crush down on mine. He held me to him, his 5 o’clock shadow rough on my face. The hum of the crowd disappeared under the cheers of my heart and the soft stroking of his warm tongue on my own.
I heard my friends gasp drunkenly behind me as they saw me embraced by the man they know I love, lost in the moment and shining like a fallen star among the ignorant hipster drunks trying to be cooler than their friends.
We pulled apart, but he kept me close. I smiled and laughed like everything was normal, like I hadn’t just been molecularly modified by his lips on mine under the stars and many prying eyes. Something shifted further away from safe and much closer to terror.
We’d spent a wonderful week together; night after night he came over after Peyton was in bed and we’d cuddle and kiss, fondle the warm fleshy bits and suck and nuzzle the protruding ones. His cock lost its treasure to my hungry mouth as easily as my heart lost its treasure to him. His warm, loving, incredible, sweet, smart, worried, supportive, sexy, funny self.
He has been supple under my steady hand and as I learn to exercise my dominance over him, subtle and consistent as it is, he bends and collects himself; self-corrects and shows a beauty I didn’t know a single man could possess. He catches himself and apologizes, “I’m sorry, Ma’am,” he’ll say with a tuck of his chin and a twinkle in his eye. He’ll say it as many times as I require in front of anyone; it’s a secret code that only we know about. To others, he’s being contrite, to me he’s being submissive and delectable.
Every night when the coast was clear I texted, “Come over.” Moments later he would be in my room, stretched out on my bed with my hand on his fleecy chest. He is a cat to the core: quirky in his solitude requirements, fiercely affectionate to those he trusts, demanding of attention on his private terms. His words have spilled out, the most beautiful I have ever heard in my life.
“Hy, you are so fucking gorgeous. I love your body. You are so sexy,” he said to me Thursday night as we lay entwined after our first softball victory. “I am so lucky.” I cuddled into him, wishing I could stay there for hours.
“Thank you for saying that. That means a lot to me.”
“Well, I mean it.”
It’s hard for me to imagine my life without him. I know I am going to be devastated. I can’t understand how he can be the best boyfriend I’ve never fucking had. How is that even possible?? What kind of life was I living prior to not dating him? Who was I choosing to love and spend my time with? Even my ex-husband never made me feel so desirable, so smart, so special, so wanted and he pledged himself to me!
TN denies wanting me and yet… and yet none of that noise from his mouth matters to me right now. What matters to me is that his bloody, beating heart is drawn to me and he is helpless to stop it and he has stopped trying to hide it. From me, from anyone. That kiss at the bar — in front of our friends — was more than just a kiss. It was compliance, a real dip into submitting to what I want from him, love.
He loves me. I am sure of it. And it makes my heart burst with rainbows and glitter and all kinds of sparkly shit on the LUB and freeze and shiver and stop on the DUB. But I’m used to it now. Nothing will change — nothing has changed — but I feel loved now. That’s fucking new.
Valentine’s Day found me busier than usual. I had dinner with a friend of mine whom I don’t know super well (she dated my exhusband right after we split) and three other women I’d never met before, but it was lovely beyond words. Roasted cauliflower, Brussels sprouts-stuffed pork tenderloin, kale salad, wine and cigarettes, connections made.
At 8:30 my phone lit up. “What are you doing?” it read. I texted him back that I was at a dinner party. “When will you be back?” I smiled and said around 10. He liked that idea.
The wine flowed and the conversation improved by the minute. At 10:30 my phone lit up again. “Oh shit!” I told my dinner companions. “I have to go! I have to go get laid!” They’d been curious about my arrangement with TN and I’d filled them in on the basics. As I was getting sucked back into conversations my phone interrupted again, “I’m naked and in your bed.” This time I was serious.
“Ok, ladies. I’m so sorry, but I truly must leave. I have a naked man in my bed.” They all laughed and whistled at me as I ran through hugs and out the door. What I hadn’t told them was he was following orders like a good boy.
I parked and flew up my stairs, tossed down my things and headed straight to my room. Out of the darkness he said hello. I felt blindly for him and he pulled back the covers and pulled me down to him for a kiss. I lit a candle and undressed under his appraising eyes.
I preened and pushed out my breasts proudly. “Before we start tonight,” I said quietly kneeling beside him, his hand resting on my bottom, “I owe you some spanks.” He pretended to be surprised, but he’d known they were coming for days. He got up and planted his feet on the floor and fell forward.
I cracked my red leather belt across the soft, round mounds of his bottom until he began to react. Each flinch and stifled cry washed over me like bath water; his increasingly red bottom whet my core.
Instead of the promised 5, he got 35. I needed to warm up with a few, then he was adorably impertinent, then I was just enjoying myself. When I felt one more would be too much I stopped and kissed the warm skin, gently caressed his thick, muscular thighs.
I tied him up then sucked on his massive cock until he writhed helplessly beneath me, his hands bound above his head, and his semen spurting on the back of my throat. When he’d stopped giggling and smiling, I crawled up to his face and carefully engulfed his nose and mouth with my cunt and gripped the iron bars of my headboard so as not to kill him with my passion.
I eased back down his torso and let his erection split me like a toothpick in a grape. “Fuck, your pussy feels so good,” he moaned.
Eventually, I took pity on him and released his hands. We tumbled and fucked. I cried and let him spank me and pull my hair like a wild beast. His cock twitched and throbbed inside me as the Hitachi did the work of 100 men and their talented tongues and he held me in his arms until I uncharacteristically fell asleep in them, tears drying on my cheeks.
As he opens up this beautiful, submissive side to me and I respond to it so viscerally and powerfully, I find myself in a strange predicament. I am the embodiment of our very relationship: I am yes and I am no. I want to feel this happiness and love, yet I am terrified of its abandonment and actually hate it a little like hating to comb out a tangle. He’s such a terrible puppet, you know: he won’t do everything I want him to. Just most of it.
I see the changes in him towards me, the love, but I want more. The more I love him the more impossible I find it to not want more. I feel guilty and greedy and attempt to temper my wanton desires with reality, but I struggle. He still refuses to sleep with me and when I boldly asked him one night his refusal was swift and permanent.
“But you slept with 4 am girl and your exgirlfriend all the time,” I said petulantly.
“That was different. I was trying to have a different kind of relationship with them. They were my girlfriend.”
The words stole my breath away and I slunk down in the passenger seat wishing we were home already. I couldn’t rally; I was crushed.
He tried to repair the matter with silly jokes, but I couldn’t pretend. I solemnly climbed the stairs behind him, thanked him for a fun night and entered my apartment and had a small fit which might have included going back to the front door and slamming it as hard as I could.
In the morning I woke and asked to see him. He came over immediately and I apologized for ending the night in a huff, but explained that my feelings were deeply hurt by the fact that I’m not as special as fucking 4 am girl. If ever I wished a D/s relationship could sway a person’s wants it would be with this.
“I don’t like sleeping with anyone, Hy and you’re looking at this all wrong. You are so much more special to me than they ever were or will be. I’ll still know you in 5 or 10 years and I don’t even talk to them anymore. But I’m sorry for hurting your feelings. I really am, but I promise you you are 100 times more special to me than they ever were.”
I told him his reasoning was bullshit, but that I would agree to believe his words for both our sakes.
It’s that reckless and random pain that awaits me whenever I want to close the gap between us that clutches at my throat on the DUB. I cannot be without it. I’d be an idiot to pretend it wasn’t there. Even though we seem to have moved forward we are still in shadow. Half my friends don’t know we are lovers, my family certainly has no idea I’m in love with someone new, and sweet Peyton only knows Mommy and TN are neighbors.
I’m happier than I’ve been in months, possibly even ever, but I am scared and sad, too. I wish he’d kiss me in front of everyone all of the time. Not just when the stars are out and the moon is bright, but in the light of day as a man in love should. If, indeed, he really is a man in love.
I wasn’t doing very well Saturday night. Nothing had or hadn’t happened. Everything was basically the same. All that was different was my ability to cope, to be tough.
The days had stretched me thin. My people needed a lot from me and I’d risen to the challenge, stretched and flexed and gave and gave, but I didn’t take enough care. I was stupid. I forgot to be gentle with me and then I snapped like a dried twig. I felt rabid and unleashed.
I got home late Friday night, Peyton in tow, exhausted. I put my baby to bed fully clothed and texted The Neighbor as he’d asked me to do earlier, but I didn’t get the response I wanted. He said he was too tired and “sorry”.
He wouldn’t be coming over.
I couldn’t handle it and quietly crumpled in on myself as I kissed my baby goodnight and tucked in the covers around the little body which mine created a handful of years ago. Looking at Peyton’s face I felt ashamed at my own needs and wished I was stronger. I quietly slipped out of the night-light lit room and texted back that I’d had a terrible day and an insignificant spat with a best girlfriend.
I peeled off my clothes and got ready for bed, pulled back my sheets and stood up straight when I heard a noise. Was it the door? He is reliably unreliable in a reliable kind of way. I’d known my text might bring him over, but I also knew I couldn’t depend on that particular response. He can be so caring, so tender and other nights distant and walled off. I never know what to expect from him. I feel simultaneously blind and dumb and powerfully confident.
I went and let him in.
I sat on my bed in my panties and a tank top and he lay on his side, his head held in his hand. “The thing is, TN, is I had a really crappy day. I’ve really spread myself thin the past two days and my mentor left today and I organized a big going away thing for her.” My voice caught in my throat. “Oh god, I’m going to cry,” I said as tears slipped out. “Fuck.”
He quietly looked at me and patted my arm and squeezed my shoulder consolingly. “I’m sorry you had a bad day.” He sat up on his knees, pushed his crotch towards me. “Here. Pet your security penis.”
I laughed at his efforts to lift my spirits and did as he suggested. He pushed me down and latched onto a breast. I let the pain distract me for a second, but my mood wasn’t so easily lifted. He said more kind words, lay with me, but eventually he left after tucking me in and leaving a sweetness behind. I slowly drifted off to sleep. Alone.
Saturday morning I woke up and remembered my dream. I texted, “I dreamt we watched Idiocracy twice. Can we do that tonight?”
“Nope. I got other stuff tonight.”
I shut down. Hard. I seethed with resentment and disdain. “You know me, Hy,” he always loves to say, “I hate making plans.”
I texted back. “Oh, right. Have fun.”
He replied. “K.”
I saw red. I wasn’t even upright in bed, yet, and still I felt angry and venomous. I realized then that my mood hadn’t improved from the night before, if anything it’d deteriorated. This wasn’t rational, clearly. I picked up my phone again striving for balance:
“I don’t think you know how terse you come across on text. Or maybe you do. I don’t know. But my bad mood makes it worse.”
He replied, “Sorry to hear you’re still in a bad mood. That sucks.”
I ignored it and got dressed, lots of things to do — places to go, people to see. We had our first softball practice as teammates at 1. I figured I’d see his face then. Maybe I’d be in a better mood by then.
I rarely feel this way. I don’t get mad or agitated like I should. I experience irritation and crank, yes, but generally, I can keep my shit together, but not that morning. That morning I felt raw and furious. “Nope. I got other stuff tonight,”he’d said. I could just hear him: mysterious, stupidly private. And me, completely and utterly — embarrassingly — irrational about it all.
An hour before practice my phone chimed from its spot buried in my purse which lay on my friend’s bed away from the brunch. I gathered up Peyton, hugged my friends goodbye and checked my messages. TN wanted to know when I was leaving for practice. I told him my plans and he asked if he could go with me. I typed out, “Nope. I got other stuff after,” but hovered over the Send button. It felt too vulnerable in its petulance. Instead I typed, “Sure,” then hit Send.
I raced home and Peyton and I quickly climbed the 40 steps up. I ran to change into more appropriate clothes and I heard the door knock from my bedroom. I was sliding on a pair of leggings when I heard Peyton open the door and TN ask, “Is your mommy home? Can she come out to play?” I rounded the corner to the living room. I looked at him with a flat gaze. “Wow, you look…” he searched for words, “still really not happy.”
“Yep. Pretty much,” I squeezed out. “C’mon, Pey, let’s go, honey.” I gathered up our stuff and we piled into my car.
Two hours of moving my arms and legs, balls smacking into leather, cleats digging into dirt and I felt relief in sweat and other people. TN and I flirted, played well off each other. He pitched, I played first. It was a tango of reliance and trust. His cock outlined audaciously by his loose, grey shorts kept my eyes below his waistline and my libido burning.
Later, after drinks with friends and once again kid-free he came to me in my apartment. “I feel better,” I told him, “but I still need my security penis.” He followed me back to my room and pushed me down on the bed and crawled in next to me. I curled into his nook and inhaled deeply of his manly flavor. I traced my hand down his naked body and flexed my fingers around his flaccid penis. I wasn’t angry anymore, just sad and lost, floating. I needed him.
Our words left our mouths and burst like bubbles above our heads. Nothing, nothing, nothing. This doesn’t even seem to exist half the time. “Suck on my breasts, please,” I said and rolled off of him onto my back.
“What’s the magic word?” he asked.
“NOW,” I said firmly.
He fell onto my bags of flesh with gusto and a smile.
“Get between my legs,” I softly commanded. He positioned himself between my white thighs, but took it further and ripped my panties off, licked his hand and smeared it on the head of his cock and pressed against my hole with his mouth reattached to my left breast.
I was deliciously dry and I felt every inch of him press and stretch into me. He pulled out after a moment of fighting his way in, then slid back in, just a sliver of an eternity further. I stared into his icy blue eyes and watched him watch me, his broad shoulders bearing his weight, my inner thighs wrapped around his warm waist.
Each inch, each thrust felt like a finality, a verdict. I’m owned, I thought. This is it. I can’t get more fucked than this. Finally, he’s here.
He pumped into me until I gushed and slopped around his pole; the round, fruity, excruciating sensations spiraled out from my core and I tossed my head from side to side and gripped the swirls on my headboard.
My phone chimed and I grabbed it laughing — Peyton was due back in minutes.
I ground down hard on him, hooking myself on his cock. My desire spilled over like an infinity pool. I didn’t want it to end, but we disengaged and I lay in his arms. We panted and clung to each other.
“How do you feel now?” he asked.
“Much better,” I whispered. My body still tingled from the climaxes and I felt like I’d won something between us.
My phone chimed again.
Quickly we dressed and he jumped back next door and I ran downstairs to retrieve my baby. Back in my bedroom Peyton said, “Mommy, your room smells like underpants!” You can send that Mother of the Year Award to me now, by the way.
Later, childless yet again, I danced with my devil. I embraced my loneliness, a bottle of wine, and Don Draper, and began to write. I was clad in jeans and a white v-neck with wine dribbled down my breasts. I floated in between despair and boredom when I heard a knock. I jumped.
It was him.
He’d gone to a birthday party. I wasn’t invited, naturally — I’m never invited — but he was home two hours after he left and said he hadn’t had any fun. And he was in my house. “We’re watching Idiocracy now,” he said and waltzed by.
I hid my writing with a click of the mouse and padded to my room. We chatted casually as I removed my pants and socks and changed into a clean t-shirt and cardigan.
We cuddled and watched the movie and I laughed and felt less desperate, less alone, but all alone all the same, as always with him. My heart in his hands, my eyes set on a future without him, crystal clear and bright in the distance.
When the movie ended we could hear the 18 year olds downstairs partying away like maniacs. “Can I stay the night at your place?” I asked, snuggled down into his arms.
“No,” he answered firmly. I felt pulled back into that space far away from him where I am safe from such words and so all I did was burrow further into his embrace. I wasn’t hurt. “C’mon,” he whispered into my ear when he stood up. “Let’s go lay down.”
Clothes were pulled to the side and skin stretched and holes stuffed. My eyes locked on his as long as I could bear it — I don’t feel so lost in the icy depths so much as I feel anchored — then I shut them and let his body kick mine higher and harder like a ball underfoot and chased across one field to the next.
My pussy released a river and I giggled between thrusts when I felt it trickle between the cheeks of my bottom. I unashamedly shared this little human thing with him and he redoubled his efforts, his cock enraged and bulging inside of me. I was just a little girl clinging to her rampaging steed.
Suddenly, he pulled out and flopped down beside me. “I’m getting overheated,” he panted, his beefy hand resting on his rapidly rising chest, his cock still arcing gracefully up and away from his body like a dolphin from the water’s surface.
“I’m going to cum now,” I said suddenly. I clamored out of bed and searched for my vibrator, the thing I’d sworn off for the month of January. I detached the Gonzo piece and plugged it in. “But I want you inside of me.”
He easily slipped back in and pumped into me hard and fast, then lay back down and lifted my legs over my hips so he could bury himself into me. The instant the buzzing head hit my clit I began the climb and his thrusts carried me a step further and further. Tears leaked out of my eyes and I whimpered and clasped at his hip and waist and arm.
The orgasm came hard and huge and I balled as my heart broke and my tightly shut eyes envisioned a woman curled around herself forever alone, but always filled. I shook and trembled as it finished and gasped for air. Someone suggested I try for another one. More of the same, but worse and more beautiful. I wailed and cried out how much I loved his fucking cock and his erection kept punching into me as if it were only five minutes old instead of 55.
I felt my cunt release hot liquid again as I screamed out and lost all modicum of decorum. There was no Hy, there was only a beast, a woman whose heart was shattered and pussy filled all by the same human being. Delectable, devastating, demanding, disabled, debauched, and deluded TN. Sweet, sweet TN.
He remarked he’d never seen me lose my shit quite like that before.
I couldn’t form a thought enough to agree or disagree. I was just a wet and weeping heap.
We disengaged, I sucked his magnificent cock, we talked and kissed maybe? I don’t fucking have any clue, honestly. I love him so much, yet secretly hate him, that he can do that to me. I want so badly to return the favor. He’s letting me in, letting me love, receiving my gifts because, he realized, “It’s a gift to let someone do something nice for me; it makes them feel good. It think that means I really have been listening to you, Hy.”
It feels incongruous to feel this way about him. To love him, yet see no future. But there is no future, technically, only now, so maybe I really do have it. It. That thing that we all hunt.
Finally alone again with Don Draper my chemistry returned to normal and the next morning was delightful, the afternoon, too. The mind and pussy fucks the day before acted like nutrients to a starving person. My strength had returned.