His love language is different from mine.

TN lounging in an apron
My sous chef.

If I had to guess, The Neighbor’s “love language” might be acts of service.  It’s not mine — mine is somewhere between words of love and getting loads of gifts — so it’s been a real exercise over the past couple of years to sort out how he feels about me.  He’d say all these stupid, mean things, but then vacuum my apartment or take out my trash, he’d keep my stash of Topo Chico full.  Eventually, I heard from his own lips what I’d suspected from the very beginning based on his actions: he loved me.

The relief I felt over finally being allowed to trust my gut was immense; I no longer had to pit his words against his actions.  They finally matched up!

The last couple of weeks have been tumultuous for me.  I’ve fought my demons and it feels as though I’m winning.  I trust him suddenly and completely.  The time we spend together is fun and light and his attentiveness is off the charts.  Sometimes I’m even overwhelmed by it.  I remind myself to breathe and relax and let his love swirl around me and think, “This is how it’s supposed to feel.” I’m so used to rejection from those I love his acceptance and presence feels like a stranger has come to dinner.

Good thing I’m a decent conversationalist.

TN lounging in an apron
A quick break before we had to get serious with risotto.


[Ed. note: TN Tuesdays is a semi weekly meme which will share more of The Neighbor with my Internet Boyfriend.  All photos will have his approval before I post them.  He is eager to see what you guys think and has requested that I share any comments.]



A 40-something single mother who writes honestly about sex, body image, D/s, relationships, her nervous tics, and how much she loves to fucking fuck. She also likes to show you her tits.

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16 thoughts on “His love language is different from mine.
  1. A) TN is amazingly hot. Unnngggghhh.
    B) it was helpful years ago to learn the different love languages M and I speak. Exceot for the fact that mine is gifts, amd M doesnt view that as legit- he just thought that was being materialistic. :-/

  2. Hmmmm I’m hearing you, Hy, I’ve discovered that the languages are quite different. The penny dropped for me only just recently with this man & that it can differ from man to man! Way to keep a girl guessing, but I think he luuuurves me! Which is kinda very ok.
    ps Hooly friggin’ dooly! TN you are seriously smokin’ in that apron! ;)

    1. I am feeling better! Next hurdle: does it mean anything if when he moves (his lease is up soon) he doesn’t move to my complex?? *le sigh*

      1. Well, the big question really is, are you ready for him to move in with you? If not, what’s the difference which complex he’s in?
        Alright, I’m being very blunt here, but really, isn’t this what it really boils down to?

        1. I’m not ready to live with him – his relationship with Peyton needs to progress more first. But in my mind, we should be making a conscious decision to maintain the closeness, not increase it.

          1. Yes, it’s true that when children are involved, things get slightly more complicated.
            Well, if in your mind you should make that conscious decision… have you talked to him about it? ;-)

  3. On a lighter note… I really love the first pic, the view from above, which shows the inverted V of his chest ‘just so’ and the apron covering just enough but letting us imagine the thickness of the thighs… HOT

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