WordPress ate my comments.

I fucking hate WP.  I also fucking hate self-hosted blogging today.

1) The WP-hosted app on my phone ate my comments on your blogs.  With the exception of one or two of you yesterday (Hi, Noods!), they were ALL sucked up by the ether.

2) I just wrote a very nice, organized post about #1 and the self-hosted site ATE THE POST.  Is it a conspiracy?!  Does Mr. Internet hate me today?!


So, I’ll try to recreate what I just spent 45 minutes doing in about 10.

Long story short, my WP-app on my phone has both my WP-hosted and my self-hosted blogs.  I use the self-hosted one to create posts and respond to comments from you all and I thought I was using the WP-hosted one for liking and commenting to those of you in my WP reader (the self-hosted one doesn’t have a reader within it).  I now know definitively that it is unreliable: I spent the better part of an hour yesterday morning responding to a handful of you and most of them never posted.  And this has been going on for months!!

I can go the way of the crazy person and think that you all hate me or I can go the way of the reasonable person and blame WP for the disappearances.

My only point to this is that I want you all to know that I have been responding and connecting to you.  Problem is, you’ve had no idea!  It’s like I RSVP’d to your party, but showed up in the Invisibility Cloak.   Fucking fuckity fuck.  It makes my gut ache to think of all the comments I’ve attempted to leave since March; I must have appeared much more absent than I actually was.  /sad face.

To avoid future snafus, I’ll be relying on Bloglovin’ from here on out and you might want to follow my blog with Bloglovin, too, if you’re unhappy with your current system.  I like how they’re organized and I especially like the naked lady.

In lieu of going back and trying to recreate the magic, I’m going to list the posts I responded to yesterday because I found them to be beautiful, relatable, hot, interesting and/or touching:

Cara – Dangling (my comment posted, but I wasn’t notified of her response)

‘Tis – In one year

Jayne – I am courting hopelessness and I am wrung

Dawn – Sweets

The Lively Wife – On this side and on that side

Elle – My hands


The whole point of me going self-hosted was to avoid getting shut down for Terms of Services violations and to possibly monetize the site somehow.  Guess it’s time I get on that latter point to make all this worth it, huh?  Otherwise this all just feels like an exercise in futility.

So, that’s that, I guess.

Aaaaaaaand, now I’m spent.  Sexy post I was writing simultaneously will be up later.





A 40-something single mother who writes honestly about sex, body image, D/s, relationships, her nervous tics, and how much she loves to fucking fuck. She also likes to show you her tits.

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37 thoughts on “WordPress ate my comments.
  1. When interacting with WP, self hosted or not, try not to have too many sessions open, meaning, being in the dashboard, especially on a working post, on more than one device or tab.

    Also, check to see that your WP install and WP app are both up to date. I’ve used WP for years for all my pro/personal (Non-Gardener) sites, and its pretty reliable, but can hiccup, especially with too many sessions.

      1. The problem is the auto-save function. If you have the post open in one device/app/tab, and your working on a post, then later switch devices or tabs while working on same post, you might wipe out your work. Its a bit more complicated than that, but its happened to me too, and I’m not self-hosted here.

          1. is this something that happens using the WP app?

            Is it always on other’s sites?

            Is it possible that the comments are their but getting caught as spam?

  2. Hey, even for those of us that are not self hosted, WP can be a real pain in the ass sometimes.

    Thanks for trying to comment on my post. I look forward to your sexy post later.

  3. Hy, do you have Jetpack installed on your self-hosted site? this allows you to link to your WP account so you can comment, respond, etc. using your dashboard.
    If you have any questions feel free to email me. southernsir (at) gmail (dot) com

  4. What a pain!

    I was all, yeah, I haven’t had a Hy comment in a while. But then I remembered that it would be helpful if I actually posted something. ;-)

  5. So it’s not you were just ignoring me?
    Pfew, what a relief!

    Nah, I’m kidding! I know you’re very busy, and I also know how much of a pain it was to comment when I was on Blogger, so I didn’t take any silence personally. Plus I try to not take things personally anyways. I mean, who am I to expect others to take time out of their busy lives to comment on my posts?
    Though I love it when they do :-)

    For now, knowing you liked my post (well, I hope! After all, the comment could have been “you suck at poetry, you should stop writing”! though I hope it wasn’t ;-) ) is enough.
    And if one day you find the time /the will /the energy /it decides to work… Well, I’ll be glad to read what you have to say :-)

    In the mean time, I’ll look forward to reading your sexy post when you find the time/energy/will/it decides to work :-)


  6. I stopped using the phone app for WP because it didn’t want to work right (as you well know). I now access WP strictly from my laptop – it was the only way to avoid issues like what you’re describing.

    1. I’m glad I’m not the only one!! (I say from my iPhone.) haha I don’t have issues responding to comments on my own posts, so I’ll likely keep it for that, but yeah… no more interacting on others’ poss from here :( God that’s gonna be rough!

  7. I REALLY understand the pain… SO annoying! I just did an HOURS writing that All just disappeared.. I was pulling my hair for ten minutes before I just put my computer down and tried to let it go! Ha ha.

    Thank you however for letting us know ! :) Xx LW

  8. I just thought your interests were occupied elsewhere Miss Hy. : ) I can reblog this if you think it will be helpful. xo, J

      1. I didn’t even get this comment and I clicked follow comments and got a confirmation. I come to your site anyway. You didn’t show up in spam – fyi.

  9. Ughhh! I can’t even begin to count how many comments I’ve had disappear so I can appreciate your frustration. More than that though, I appreciate you stopping by.


  10. Hi! You just disappeared from my feed… I checked and i’m still following you. Do you know how i can get you back?

    1. I switched to self-hosted a while back, so maybe that’s why? And WP has always deleted shit outta my feed inexplicably. So annoying! But I’d try re-adding me manually. If that still doesnt work, lemme know!!

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