It’s all smoke and mirrors.

Reality pulls no punches.

February Photofest

A 40-something single mother who writes honestly about sex, body image, D/s, relationships, her nervous tics, and how much she loves to fucking fuck. She also likes to show you her tits.

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18 thoughts on “It’s all smoke and mirrors.
  1. It’s not all smokes and mirrors.
    It’s you. All of you. When you stretch to snap a picture of you where you feel good about yourself, and when you’re brutally honest, showing us what you see when you maybe don’t like your picture so much. Beautiful in each and every way.
    And I want to thank you for this picture, which helps me tremendously. Because, too often, I still don’t see myself as beautiful. But I know that there are a few who disagree with that perception and keep showing me that they like all pictures of me, even those where I don’t like myself. Because they like ME. But it’s good to be reminded that I’m not the only one.
    Especially when the ex is being a dangerous jerk with our children again.

  2. I see nothing wrong with this picture Hy, you are the average American woman, I see no flaws and you have the courage to put yourself out there. I admire women like you, your sexuality is pleasing in this day and age. I applaud you and will continue to follow your writings.

  3. As I watched this photo again, (and I know that’s not particularly what women want to hear!) I was mesmerised by the fine lace of silvery line on your breasts. Really pretty! (and it helps me see that mine must not be that awful either ;) )

  4. I love this photo, you really have a beautiful body. I know, though how difficult it is for many of us to look at ourselves. It is worth trying to see yourself as others do (though I myself struggle) xx

  5. This is a lovely and powerful photo. I know it makes you feel vulnerable: thank you for sharing.

    (I’m reading between the lines a bit here and I hope I’m not completely off base about what you’re thinking. Forgive me if I’ve misread you.) You talk about smoke and mirrors, but for the record, there’s nothing wrong with making choices re angle, pose, lighting etc that give a flattering look and curating the results. The process should, however, make you feel satisfied in some way. I get the impression that the photos you usually post make you feel dissatisfied and inauthentic, as if you somehow don’t measure up to photos of yourself. If that’s the case, then what does it actually accomplish?

    Hy, you’re lovely. Just as you are. On the inside and also on the outside. Your self-image (like everyone else’s) is being persistent. The problem is that negative self-image ignores or explains away any evidence that contradicts its view. (It’s rather like certain politicians in that way.) So I want your self-image to listen to me closely: You are good. You are enough – neither too little nor too much. You are worthy of love. You are sexy.
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  6. It is a fabulous photo. I’m with Zoe on this. The camera may never lie, but mine certainly knows how to be economical with the truth. It’s part of our art. It doesn’t make what we see any less real.

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