Friday, October 5th, is Boobday!

Hy tits banner in black and white v neck t shirt

I met with a friend who traveled to the mountains with me in mid September.  We’ve known each other for 20 years and some of our best friends were getting married on a mountain top.  While there with all of them I was near tears all weekend, not just because of the wedding, but because I was with my people.  My people, you understand?  Sort of like my blog people, except clothed.

It was all I could do not to open up to them all all at once, but I stayed my confession.  It really wasn’t the right time.  We were all basking in the love in the air, but last night, sitting across from this old friend getting a sweater I’d left behind in his rental car I was struck that the time was right. And so I did.

And guess what??  The sky didn’t fall.  He didn’t even seem surprised and then began to tell me all the female friends he has who also have double lives on Patreon and how he’s helped with photo shoots and with creative recommendations.

He understood that I was just trying to piece my two sides together and I was vague with the details, but it still felt good to draw them closer.

Then I came home, made a grilled cheese sandwich, watched Frasier and slept in till 10 am.  Woke up, read in bed for two hours then started cooking for the week in my handy dandy Instant Pot.

I’m about to take the dog on a hike along the river before Peter stops by then I’ll be going to a sex-positive event here in town with some peeps I know.  I’ll be home early, curled on my couch with the dog where I will continue to contemplate my navel.

I’m growing tired of the double life, honestly, and I’m running out of things to say here.  I wonder sometimes if it’s time to hang up my Hy hat, but then I think about losing all of you and I think No way, Jose.  Just relax and you’ll get your mojo back, Hy!

Anyway, I’m not going anywhere just yet (I’m totally going to London in March), but I am thinking about giving myself a break.  Setting up Boobday for a month and just going dark to see how I feel sans blog.  Last time I did that A Dissolute Life Means… was born.  Who knows what would come of a break this time around?

Love you guys.



Full Boobday Guidelines here.

One of two ways to participate:

1) either submit a pic to me via email ( OR

2) submit a link below to your own blog post for Boobday.

Also, just as a reminder:

If you send me a pic, be sure to tell me if you want to be anonymous or not and what your pseudonym is (if you have one or I gave you one)

Tell me why you chose the photo you sent

And don’t forget to comment on everyone’s posts! This is all about spreading the love!

My tits:

It’s been a while since I deliberately dressed for a photo.

NOT my tits:

Imagine being beneath Sandy.

A 40-something single mother who writes honestly about sex, body image, D/s, relationships, her nervous tics, and how much she loves to fucking fuck. She also likes to show you her tits.

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8 thoughts on “Friday, October 5th, is Boobday!
    1. Yeah, I can’t see it happening any time soon, I’m just feeling really blah about it all right now. Not sure what I’m doing here anymore, you know?? Hugs back. xx

  1. You need to do YOU Hy. Not what you think people expect from you. Do YOU.
    We understand. And those who don’t… did they ever really count?

  2. If you need a break Hy take a break, a month, a week, get your mojo back and conquer the day. You are a strong, intelligent, beautiful woman.

  3. I feel ya, Hy. That’s why I’m rebranding as me. Taking out the nudes. The overly personal (and sometimes illegal) shit. And I’ll see what happens. Growth and change, change and growth. Regardless, I wish you the best.
    It’s been a killer 7+ years around these parts. Xoxo

  4. Hy, my interpretation is that writing for this blog is becoming more of a chore for you at this stage. As opposed to being something you can’t wait to do (as you’ve probably experienced in the past).

    A quick glance at the number of posts under your category listings shows that the top source of your writing inspiration for this blog is no longer with you. You lost your muse…and with it, your desire to write for this site. Maybe there’s still a heaviness that you’re reminded of (even on a subconscious level) that’s affecting your desire to write here…or in general. It’s understandable.

    It just sounds like you’ve changed and maybe even evolved…so maybe “A Dissolute Life Means…” should change or evolve too. Life isn’t static, so neither should your blog. It’s constantly changing and morphing.

    The real question is…

    Are you struggling to write or are you struggling to write for this blog?

    I suspect it’s the latter.

    If that’s the case, then maybe it’s time to make a change.

    Whether that means retiring this blog and moving on. Adapting it to include other things that interest you. Or just starting a new blog that merges your two identities in a way that’s comfortable to you.

    Either way, your true followers…the ones that mean the most to you…will accept you for you – regardless of what you decide to do.

    Just know that I enjoy your writing in general – regardless of the topic. Your writing style is a joy to read. I doubt I’m the only one to think that. So even if you retire this blog…please continue writing somewhere. You’re too good not to.

    1. I sat here reading this nodding. I have definitely lost my muse. I’m feeling little inklings if it with Peter, but… we’ll see what happens. And you’re right, I do need to find a new focus or twist on things. I loved my project in June (the writing every day thing). Maybe I’ll just keep doing that… thanks for all your thoughtful insights. :) xx Hy

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